processing feelings with mult perspectives?

we cannot look at any issue from one fixed perspective. of course, that is impossible, as we are multiple (our system here; not generalizing.) But it can be confusing because when something is bothering one of us, we know the 'why' behind it, because our multiple perspectives can see it rather objectively (if, say, the matter is between an other-bodied person and one of us.)

So on one hand, we can 'get over' personal slights caused by an other-bodied person; like, understanding why theyre happening. on the other hand, the one of-us in-system who is directly being affected/reacting to an other-bodied person's doings is still actively being either upset or hurt by them and still processing the information, feelings, etc.

sometimes it is a matter of just waiting it out, it seems. knowing from one of us (the not-directly-being-bothered one) helps; that one can explain to the upset-one just what is going on.

that's not really confusing; what is confusing is the fact that we outwardly (to other-bodied observers) tend to switch between being content/happy and being upset/down.

any thoughts?

-- Sun Aug 06, 2017 11:58 pm --

then at times, it carries-over and out-over other-bodied people that we are close to. like, we can put a finger on something that bothers us; like, if we think that an other other-bodied person is taking advantage of them, etc. but we don't always know how to communicate it to them; or if we should care or butt-out. if it is directly a situation where an action will result in danger, of course, we will open up about it and see if they are really okay; but like, it almost feels like premonition? though there's really nothing supernatural about it.

If three or fewer maybe more are on the journey it just gets really agigtating to say they not talking to you as the other world. Everybody you in a relationship there isnt going to not be problems with varying needs the problems with people are obvious. If it is our issue then express a conference of using knowing u like agrement others like worry etc ....Knowing what to listen for when it is two sided convo like the neat little visuals of a head with heads in the shape of the circle (inner world). For the present moments, once the interactions are over you gotta reframe get direction clear keep them clear then also know when their are share struggles when consciousness memory blips happens... What did the interactions tell you we needed this in life it told the story about how we hated friend years before it could also revelieve trauma not remember hiding behind that....It is nothing crinimal about the minds ability to keep it hidden if all out in that moment it probaby would seem like our now too much emotions too many needs a breaka from reality all over the place and dont lose your career all alreafy plenty of folks ready to discredit you all. Life is all about living normally with normal emotions affect perceptions memory cognition consciousness, with very little hurt that warrants any diagnoses. Being how this is you aren't going to not say shut up it generally has you surrely and wanting to not be bothered . Possibly super detached and always convo ready knowing you gotta function this isn't perpetual convo so the flightness can be a huge issue...


Us professing this doesn't mean our being isnt acknowledging what we are. DID/PTSD so crap is a given at some point the open endless are for another reason for the inner working and memories the story of how this got to be.

Thanks for this post, LindseySays. It really brings into focus one of our ongoing challenges -- one of us getting triggered pretty badly and we as a system aren't able to rebound from it. Some of us understand the upset, we know who's upset and why, or we think we do, but we can't fix it. Asking the upset alter to journal could help but they shouldn't be expected to deal with it alone.

Journaling hasn't worked yet for Ulrich in our system. He's healed a ton in the past couple years but his original "skill" was holding on to the resentment and not forgetting quickly. This actually had important psychological value many years ago, it helped protect us. But nowadays it's more painful for him and the system than helpful. And we all know, most of all him when he admits it, that he's stuck.

We think communication is the key behind all of our healing, communication among the different parts of our mind. We know if we were a singleton, we'd have one mind to sift through, compare and weigh all the thoughts, attitudes, and emotions about an event until we were able to come to a single coordinated conclusion or decision. Well, ideally we (I) would. Actually, I don't have any proof, other than from reading, because I've never been a singleton.

Writing even just this much seems to have helped, since Ulrich is in the middle of one of his dark periods, which are kind of fatalistic whirlpools. So maybe addressing the triggered part with understanding and compassion is a good angle. We do know that just expecting or hoping the triggered alter will work their way out on their own hasn't worked for us, that's for sure. We each need help and at least some of it can come from the others in the system.