What Makes a Teen a Teen?

MakersDozn wrote:I get what you're saying about Allegra and me both being normal. Sigh. It just seems to me that maturity is a precursor to aging, and I don't want that. Allegra and I are a set. Lucy and Ethel. Abbott and Costello. Frick and Frack, whoever the hell they are. Allegra says she's staying a teen, but that doesn't feel reassuring to me.

Thanks,

Laura and others

Oh! You don't want her growing up. And since she's mature, then you fear she might grow up.

Well, that's a fair fear. I mean it's valid.

Maybe aging has a bad connotation for you.

You know? I had some... issues with certain items that I associated with being "old"; and I didn't want them. That for me meant being boring, forgetting what was important in life, giving in to the system, forgetting dreams, losing contact with the inner child, losing the sense of adventure.

However, as I grow, and as I see other type of adults, I see that staying young is actually and attitude in life. That an adult can choose not to be boring, that can stay in touch with what's important in life, that can still stand for their believes, than can make their dreams come true, stay in touch with thir inner child, keep their sense of adventure.

So, when I saw that. I was able to let go of the meaning the object had for me, and assign a new cool meaning. My own meaning.

What does aging mean for you?

Sea

PS: Oh, and I also got to assign a new meaning to maturity and aging: Wisdom, and being reliable, and offering support, and choosing how I wanted to live my life, and doing so. Were all things that were and wonderful about aging and maturity. Things I want to be, and be to others. So, that change a lot my view on aging.

brockovich4321 wrote:The reason they can't agree is because they are two different people with 2 different opinions & that's OK.

Thanks. Hearing this helps a lot.

Laura and WhatsHerFace

-- Thu Jun 02, 2016 5:27 pm --

PS....Sea....Just letting you know I hear you. Our attitude towards age is a complicated subject. A lot of it has to do with our parents getting married when they were very young (21 and 22), and having us a year later.

Laura and others

MakersDozn wrote:PS....Sea....Just letting you know I hear you. Our attitude towards age is a complicated subject. A lot of it has to do with our parents getting married when they were very young (21 and 22), and having us a year later.

Laura and others

Thanks for answering.

It's cool, Laura and others.

My parents had me when they were 21 and 21 and they married 2 years later.

Sea

Thanks, Sea.

I don't want to think about aging. None of us do. Plus we've got a lot of other sh*t going on inside.

Glad to talk to you anyway, though.

Laura and others

Yeah, it's cool.

Sea