Getting in touch with alters

I am spooked today. I don't know what to do with myself. It seems like there is this (probably) long life ahead of me, and I'm just kind of floating in space, all these things are going to happen, some pleasant, others unpleasant, and then it's going to be over and I'll probably regret that I didn't enjoy it more. If I have to go through this DID thing, it needs to be a little more fun.

Fine, yeah, I have alters or whatever you want to call them. I don't know what to do with them. They come and mess with things in the name of getting by. It just mostly sucks, but those alters do these things because, well, feelings, and wacked logic and reality. I don't know how to help them with that. When I get a whiff of what is wrong, it just seems kooky. You're afraid of what? You believe what? It's a wild, wild world in here. I'm stuck feeling around in the dark for signs of intelligent life.

I am not afraid to do what needs to be done. Just, can someone tell me what needs to be done? The therapist is all, "they have things they need to share with you," so I'm like, "okay, let's share." But how do we make that happen? I can get just the tiniest hint of contact unless something big is happening. In that case, it all goes so fast I can't keep up who is who. And I admit I can get upset arguing and trying to figure out up from down. I don't trust people that easily and I have no patience for people's stupidity.

The T said I should try to do these internal meetings so I'm going to try that. See who shows up. On the other hand, this T pisses me off because she continually acts as though B. is the "host" and I'm just her helper or something. Hell no. I am here to live, not to make someone else live. I'm not gonna take over the show or something but what about sharing? I don't want to become part of B who is the most apathetic and whiny person you'll ever meet.

Right. Off to conduct an internal meeting. Be there or be square, dearies!
Alison

What would make it more fun?

Do you have an (outside person) who you trust a lot, who you can front and switch around?

hello, not sure who I am.

For us its all about intent. I/we just learned that clear intent/statement is essential and perhaps even key. This can be done through written note, out loud, or just through "mental message" or image. Sometimes it takes time, but my/our advice is to keep communicating, to be calm, so your walls ( and maybe their's ) may lower. For me/us it took time and patience. basically trying everything to communicate but trying to stay calm aswell. Not supressing, but going into dialoge. Even if they dont respond back or even seems they dont respond back, they may respond back but simply not being heard/noticed. or they may hear it and just dont respond back.

I/we keep trying and now it begins to pay off for me/us. Its as going through an storm. if its all crowdy and noisy, simply ask them to calm down, mentally. It doesnt have to be in words, there are different way to communicate, just go with the flow i guess.
I know it is hard at times ( not trying to be preachy ) and sometimes, assuring is the only thing I/we can do. And ofcxourse give them time. You may simply be not ready, or they are not ready. It will all happen in time, atleast, that was my/our case.

Just try to stay open. if someone is sensed around, try to tlak back to them. Ask theyre likes, just try to chat Even if they not seem to hear it, there may be many reasons why.

For us its all about intent, communication, stating and an willing to work with them, and you should be fine Its not going over one night ice. its an skill to be learned, and I have faced many frustrations. It will "click"eventually. openness is very important. They eventually started to contact me, and come into awareness, but seems an gradual process of learning and accepting.

( why do I feel suddenly like i have dejavu? even this feels dejavu. )

Just my/our 2 cents.

~mixture(?)

Hi Alison et al,

I'm not that great at communication but these things have worked for us-
Writing letters to specific alters
Listening or taking notes when an alter responds to music
Journaling
Mapping via drawing or journaling seems to require group participation
One time I drew this representation of where the alters are in relation to each other and it gave insight into who was near who and who was hanging out near who....like it showed one alter caring for younger ones etc..

I never did have great luck with the internal meeting idea as in sitting at a table and having discussions. I needed visual writing/drawing representation for some reason...

Best of luck in discovering what works for you.

Xoxo

Thanks for all the input! Wonderful list, Journeygirl!

hi. I found this which has helped me communicate with alters.

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