SOs need to be valued

I think sometimes the needs of significant others gets lost when in partnership with DID partners. Sometimes the focus is all about DID and the needs of the DID partner. Today lets remember the SOs. It would mean the world to me for my DID partner to tell me I have worth , am valuable and loveable. Those words would create so much joy in my soul. I don't want to tell him I have this need I so much want it to be a response from him unsolicitered from his heart and soul. Just to hold me and tell me I'm valued and loveable. Sometimes it feels like I get told all the things I aren't and don't understand and am inadequate in. So today DID partners grab your SO and tell them they are loveable worthy and valuable. It may do your relationship a whole lot of good that is awesome

laceyjayne wrote:I think sometimes the needs of significant others gets lost when in partnership with DID partners. Sometimes the focus is all about DID and the needs of the DID partner. Today lets remember the SOs. It would mean the world to me for my DID partner to tell me I have worth , am valuable and loveable. Those words would create so much joy in my soul. I don't want to tell him I have this need I so much want it to be a response from him unsolicitered from his heart and soul. Just to hold me and tell me I'm valued and loveable. Sometimes it feels like I get told all the things I aren't and don't understand and am inadequate in. So today DID partners grab your SO and tell them they are loveable worthy and valuable. It may do your relationship a whole lot of good that is awesome

I think them letting you that close to them is a sign of love in itself. Personally. I hate it when my host gets a damn SO because they feel like they can change us and help us. Stupid mortals. Love is fake. a biological illusion, one of many in this meaningless universe. I hope you singletons enjoy the satisfaction of knowing your being lied to every single day. Believing love and emotions are real.

Hi laceyjayne,

I'm so glad you posted this thread. It actually brings tears to my eyes.

I wanted that so badly when I was in my relationship. I was making so many efforts, and I wanted a word for him, as you say: "unsolicited". Telling me that he loved me, and that me being patient, and reading about DID, and getting to know him, all of him, was important to him. I wanted to be hold, and loved.

Your post made immediately think about a video for SOs that made a woman who has DID:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kyLLe1c-gFo

I cried when I saw it.

I do believe that people who have DID are amazing people, who have suffered terribly, and I'm so blessed for having had a relationship with one of them. I also think I needed to hear those words.

Hear hear

Hi laceyjayne,

You are right. SOs do a really tough job and they should be loved and cherished. You help us a lot and sometimes even save our lives in ways you don't even know about. You deserve big hugs.

We are going to make a card for our SO today so we can all tell her how cool she is.

Thanks for reminding us laceyjayne.

Iain Etc.

Interesting view;

No one gets out alive!

Mental people concentrate on themselves and their problems; forgetting the world around them!

Your bringing up good points

We are going to make a card for our SO today so we can all tell her how cool she is.

that made me smile. I can feel her warmth and pleaure and how much she will feel loved. I think it is important. That would make my world a much better place if something like that happened for me

laceyjayne wrote:

We are going to make a card for our SO today so we can all tell her how cool she is.

that made me smile. I can feel her warmth and pleaure and how much she will feel loved. I think it is important. That would make my world a much better place if something like that happened for me

I'm so sorry about Mercy... She was having a bad day. I hope you all are happy and feel very special. Because not many people are as understanding as you people.

Hi Mercy,

Sounds like you are hurting. I hope your day gets better.

Iain

I do think you, and by that I mean all the SO, are really amazing people. I always think about how I couldn't be with any person because no one would want to stay with all my "madness", but then I read your posts and think... "Wow, this people love them so much and are trying to understand everything and are there for them, and...", is really surprising, almost shocking, but in a nice way.

But, yes, you have to be cherised, valued, and you all have to know you're so, /so/ worthy. You have to know that, and, yes, of course, it could be awesome to hear those things from your partner, because they're the one you love so much!

Particulary, I can't say (verbally) those things easily, I can't even say "I love you" verbally to my family (my little sisters means so, so much to me), neither to my best friend, it's hard, because I do care about them, but I can't say it. But I try to let them know this, with notes, or with actions, and probably I'm not the only one.

I really really hope you could receive a sign that lets you know how important and irreplaceable you are. Even better if you can actually hear those things you want to hear!