SOs need to be valued

IainEtc wrote:Hi Mercy,

Sounds like you are hurting. I hope your day gets better.

Iain

Sounds like i'm hurting? You can't hear text. I don't have time for your petty emotions. I am not hurt. You should get to know someone before you make false accusations mortal.

Thanks for this thread. I am a supporter as well. It's a lot of hard work, but my SO has let me know in many ways how much he cares about me. Most of the time it's not with words, but actions. His little ones are very good at saying how much the appreciate me and are very lovable.

He also has an alter that says the same things as Mercy said here. It's okay though, they are all welcome and listened to.

Hi Mercy,

Thanks for letting me know you are not hurting. It helps me to know you are OK. You're right. I don't know you very well. From your words, you appear smart and fierce. I bet that's a good combination to make things safer for you. It's harder for me sometimes so if you have any advice please let me know.

Thanks for replying,

Iain Etc.

IainEtc wrote:Hi Mercy,

Thanks for letting me know you are not hurting. It helps me to know you are OK. You're right. I don't know you very well. From your words, you appear smart and fierce. I bet that's a good combination to make things safer for you. It's harder for me sometimes so if you have any advice please let me know.

Thanks for replying,

Iain Etc.

No problem. As a demon/god it feel it is my duty to inform mortals with correct information you see. People can't worship me if they are to busy with their unnecessary problems.

laceyjayne wrote:I don't want to tell him I have this need I so much want it to be a response from him unsolicitered from his heart and soul.

That is a really tall order. It is something many women want, and it drives men nuts. We want men to read our mind and say exactly what we want them to say without being coached or prompted by us. Couples therapist Dr. Gary Chapman often mentions this in his books. He says "God didn't give most husbands the gift of mind reading" and "If you want your spouse to be sensitive to your feelings, then you must tell him/her how you are feeling."

hahahaha Una!!!

You're so right on the spot.

hahahahahaha I laugh at myself. I am like that.

I do tell somethings I want, actually many, but when it comes for nice things to say,... "oh, I want it to come from their heart". hahahahahahaha

You really made me laugh.

I guess he's right, but sometimes I feel silly saying: "Hey I want you to fight for me" or "I want to know if I'm important in your life". And if he says it, I feel it lost its importance just because he said because I asked him to say it.

But then again, how am I gonna know if I don't tell him. Yeap, no mind readers. hahaha Una.

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