Any advice for alters with blood fetish? (Trigger)

One of my guys, TK, has had a somewhat sexual desire and love of blood since childhood. He wants to mature and become a stable adult, and I would like to help him get there.

Is there any advice on how to deal with this?

Please note: I am Nic. Not C. I'm the core, the host. The nice one of the group. If any of the following answers to my question are:
-I dunno.
-Ask your therapist/T!
-Read (book), specifically (chapter X).
-Exercise!!!!!1!

I will not be the nice one for very long. And while were on the subject:
-People who think this warning is rude and I deserve to be told how rude I am.

I'm sorry I have to be blunt, but I am asking for your experience with these issues. The reason I come to these forums is because we all have the same disorder. Telling me to go somewhere else is the exact opposite of what I need. I need you to help me.

So, if you can, please. And if this goes well, I would like to put more trust into this community again for the future, and contribute and ask more. Thank you.

Okay, I'm going to answer because I'm concerned that by posing the question the way you did, you're less likely to get a response.

It feels a bit weird because you're asleep now in your bedroom on the other side of the wall and I tucked in one of your littles a couple hours ago but in my opinion your warning was indeed rude and offputting. You can't pose a question here and then suggest you won't be nice if people answer in a way that displeases you. If a very sound coverage of blood fetish happens to be found in a chapter of a book, or a journal article, I know you know it's foolish to say you won't accept that considering you read perfectly well and often.

Since you now have a T, why you wouldn't want to bring it up at some point or have that suggested escapes me. In addition, knowing you as well as I do, the attitude expressed feels almost exclusively coming from C.Nic, not Nic, no matter who may have been technically in front. I know his in-your-face-ness was the shield that protected you all from the insanity at home but it will get in the way in the real world over and over.

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Now to the topic, I believe TK's reaction to blood itself comes directly from the abuse that he experienced but may not remember. I believed that when I read your posts over a year ago, before you moved here. I've often had an overreaction to blood. I faint if I look while giving blood. Now I've been told by nurses that isn't so unusual but I've had images and flashbacks associated with blood that sadly leave little doubt about bad things that happened to my body from abuse.

Sexual abuse can lead to some bizarre and disturbing sexual behavior, thought patterns or fantasies in the victim. And a higher level of violence can magnify the effects. My advice is that TK is going to have to see that strong fetishes do not arise in a vaccuum and for him to allow himself to remember rather than proceed as if his own oddities are pure choice. They're not, but it feels better, less powerless to own the fetish as something natural rather than the result of something forced on you by repeated abuse.
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I know some of you were hurt by some comments you read or received in the past. That can happen here, we have DID and not all alters are equally polite. You guys made a few rude comments online yourselves, including to one or two of my alters. Overall, you guys can get over that but it may be tougher for C.Nic because of what he had to endure that the rest of you got to avoid.

I feel you all might have brought this up at dinner if I hadn't been a little most of tonight. If anyone here has a blood fetish or issues with blood, I know TK would benefit from any comments, advice or your experience. He's trying hard to outgrow this stuff, to move beyond it.

We have a young part with a fetish that is very off-putting to the rest of us.
(Trauma related. Though the original thing was not sexual in nature it turned out that way for them.)

What we did was think of ways that are ok in which they can get their fill of that stuff.
That might be a bit hard when it comes to blood I guess. Maybe you could help him come up with ways he can enjoy his fetish that won't negatively affect the rest of you or anybody else?

That's what we're doing anyway.
No matter the origin, the part I am talking about in my group gets enjoyment from his fetish.
They just watches legal porn about it online etc. and we leave them to it.

It was hard at first for the rest of us to accept that the fetish exists within our group but the person in question has since learnt the importance of doing certain things in private
And oddly, the less taboo that fetish became within our group, the less pressing a need it became for that unnamed part in here with me.