been a hard time going- -:@&

hi there ev31

It has been a while since I have posted, just how long I am not sure.

I have been through a lot in the past months. Both with my DID and with family - we almost lost my partners dad to a heart attack and then suddenly over 6 weeks lost my partners nan.

Over those 6 weeks I stopped keeping my journal that all of my parts had been writing in and until those weeks for the first time in my life my parts were talking to my partner. Even though I was not in control, my parts allowed me to stay aware of what was going on.

That was then..........


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ALLLLL STOP FOR THE CRAZY BUS.......... my poor teenager part.

I had no idea that for a whole 2 weeks my teenager had been coming out and hitting our self and punching and slapping. Cursing , swearing , shouting at our self huddling . It would happen at times we thought we had wronged our partner in some way. No matter how she tried she said she could not get us to stop, thing is a lot of the time because we was traveling a lot die to family being ill it would happen in a car and her stress was so hi she wouldn't know what to do. so she would panic, until she got angry and hit the car roof and that caused me to switch to my littles.... then I didn't see my littles for a week.......

I have had intense flashes of wanting to cut myself that scare me to my core..... SO I HAVE WANT TO HIDE FROM MY TEENAGE PART EVEN MORE. any way hell hell hell.

sorry I give up. sorry for writing this not sure why I did, but thanks

Did I get it right that you were travelling in a car to your partner's family because some of them were ill, including the grandmother's (?) passing away? If that's what was happening, was your teen reacting to this situation? I'm pretty sure this would be triggering to one or more parts of my system.

Is it possible that pain has been happening for your partner and that's triggering because you're powerless to stop or fix it? Are there any other effects of current events that would trigger your teen? Is it possible to ask your teen or others who understand that part what the main hurt is? When an alter is acting out, hurting or wanting to hurt the body, I understand how it may be tempting to hide from or avoid that alter, but that may not be the best option.

When someone is hurting, a person in the world or an alter in your system, good approaches are to let them know you're there for them and try to engage with them in a way that isn't seen as too aggressive or intrusive.

Hi River et al!!!

I'm so glad to read you.

I'm sorry you guys are going through such a rough time, though.

Johnny-Jack wrote:When someone is hurting, a person in the world or an alter in your system, good approaches are to let them know you're there for them and try to engage with them in a way that isn't seen as too aggressive or intrusive.

WOW awesome advice!

I just wanted to say hi to all.

Johhny-Jack's advice is right on the spot. You may totally want to avoid it, but it could be good to approach your teen.

I just thought about something else, could she, your teen, feel that she is the cause of the tribulations your partner is going through? You mentioned:

riverside wrote:It would happen at times we thought we had wronged our partner in some way.

Is there anyways you could assure her, that none of that is happening because of her?

Take care you guys.

Sea