surviving revolving door at parents house visit

Hey people,


Could any one pleaseeeee just help, shout out some help. Laughter, grounding, stories, any thing, I can read, or any alter that has access to this memory.

I'm at Mt parents and I'm switching between me river, Sam my protector, teen me, lost me and Elliott little.

I'm trying to keep it subtle but it isn't and stressful it is and


Anyone pleaseeeee

Hi River. Sorry to hear that you're having a stressful time at your parents' house. Just try to take deep breaths or find an object or location for helps relax you. I remember once I was really stressed and just thinking calming things or of doing things that relax me helps take the edge off of my stress and anxiety. Hope this helps. Sage hugs, if wanted.

My littles want to know what your littles are planning to do tomorrow.Ours say they wish they were with you so that we could all colour together and even get out some big pots of messy gooey paint and just dip our hands in and push it all around some large pieces of paper and make a large amount of mess (then leave the big ones to clean it up hehe).

"twinkle twinkle little star, how I wonder what you are, up above the sky so high, like a diamond in the sky, twinkle twinkle little star, how I wonder what you are"

Were busy cross stitching some cards for a friend to sell. We've done a baby panda and a lamb and now need another one, we think a little puppy is cute and will sell well. We don't have the yellow threads for some of the animals yet but we like the duckling

Sorry, think we've just let the kids reply to your posts, not sure if that will help focus on something for 2 mins or whether you'll just have a laugh at our kids ramblings

Up above the sky so high like a diamond in the sky,
We are the wombles
, we womble around, around, around, around!

I'm the the the kinda guy that likes to womba round. . . !
Hehe

Thank you-e Elliott really really find the singing helpful.

The talking about kid things was a hay distraction is general.

Viola-

Thank you sooo much from us big alters. From the moment of your post, we manged, well one of us named to become centred and front and calm.

You both have made such a difference to my family inside me, my mum who is innocent of any nasty things and my partner. You are both amazing.thank you so very much.

You're welcome

I'm not sure who I am. It is 8 pm ish here. We are staying for two nights. We live over 400 miles away. It is very strange feeling being here again. I am in the room my parents once had and also river.I never did, but I have lived in this house.

I have had flashing memories when I read this post of my life for the first time and it is all very odd to be here now but not belong here in this time zone. I know the woman in the bed next to me is loved very much by river who is very scared because I do not recognise the first tense of there relationship but do respect it all the same.

It has been very painful hearing and seeing my parents talk of my sister and them not see me. River is so good at communicating with our mum and they are so close.I on the other hand react with a harsh tone and come across without care for my siblings but really I am upset that they get sympathy and love and treat my mum bad.

Today, I should not exist-I should not exist.my time is past.why am I here again?

The noises, the noise, the remarks, the constant ever repeating conversions that never change that we listen to all the time. It is not that we listen to them actually that is the problem it is that we here the pain of Colleen in her voice and I, no matter, how much,I try, no matter how meany times we have the same bloody conversations about the sister and her self involved, self created mental and physical health problems, we are unable to create a solution. The reason being because Colleen's daughter refuses to believe that any but her or her friends know anything and instead repeats the same choices in her life over and over.instead of choosing to make new ones.

I have almost lost it big time. I know I have been less than calm and collective with Colleen because I an Sam and it is simply not my style- I'm not sure I'm capable of it to be sure. I'm a protector but I am in conflict because I will protect river first but she will always try and protect her mother Colleen first, so I am always in conflict how to converse with her.

possible trigger warning


Night time is when I always protected river, we are in the house she last felt scared in but she was never touched. physically it all stopped but emotionally the fear never went away.

I am here right now even though she says she knows she is safe and I know she is- I'm still up front most of the time.

Thanks for helping us.

We wish you a good night. When we're anxious we take charlie bear our teddy with us. Once it was agreed that we're safe as long as we're together which brings great comfort and stops us feeling so alone. We hope that you have something familiar where you are, I guess your clothes should feel familiar (even if the room doesn't) so try and focus on those, and maybe work out what they would like to buy, give you something to focus on that's not that house.

Thinking of you

Hey Sam et al,

I've been thinking a lot about you guys these days, wondering how things might have gone.

So, you guys are staying two more nights? Humm, I'm thinking of you all, even when I'm not on-line, I'm sending you a safe vibe.

riverside wrote:I have almost lost it big time. I know I have been less than calm and collective with Colleen because I an Sam and it is simply not my style- I'm not sure I'm capable of it to be sure. I'm a protector but I am in conflict because I will protect river first but she will always try and protect her mother Colleen first, so I am always in conflict how to converse with her.

What if you try showing River your concerns and listening what her concerns are regarding Colleen. In that sense you both can listen to each other, and try to understand each other's reasons to protect.

riverside wrote:possible trigger warning
Night time is when I always protected river, we are in the house she last felt scared in but she was never touched. physically it all stopped but emotionally the fear never went away.
I am here right now even though she says she knows she is safe and I know she is- I'm still up front most of the time.

Thanks for helping us.

Sam, I think you are doing a great job in being there for River, with River... and for everyone in the system, and with everyone in the system. I think it is more than normal that even though she feels and knows is safe, you're still very present just in case. Try breathing, that also helps calming down, and trusting River.

riverside wrote:I'm not sure who I am. It is 8 pm ish here. We are staying for two nights. We live over 400 miles away. It is very strange feeling being here again. I am in the room my parents once had and also river.I never did, but I have lived in this house.

I have had flashing memories when I read this post of my life for the first time and it is all very odd to be here now but not belong here in this time zone. I know the woman in the bed next to me is loved very much by river who is very scared because I do not recognise the first tense of there relationship but do respect it all the same.

It has been very painful hearing and seeing my parents talk of my sister and them not see me. River is so good at communicating with our mum and they are so close.I on the other hand react with a harsh tone and come across without care for my siblings but really I am upset that they get sympathy and love and treat my mum bad.

Today, I should not exist-I should not exist.my time is past.why am I here again?

Hi, I don't know who you are, but wanted to tell you that I read you, that I admire what you said:

riverside wrote:I know the woman in the bed next to me is loved very much by river who is very scared because I do not recognise the first tense of there relationship but do respect it all the same.

Respect is so important. Maybe you could talk with River about what you're feeling.

riverside wrote:It has been very painful hearing and seeing my parents talk of my sister and them not see me. River is so good at communicating with our mum and they are so close.I on the other hand react with a harsh tone and come across without care for my siblings but really I am upset that they get sympathy and love and treat my mum bad.

Today, I should not exist-I should not exist.my time is past.why am I here again?

I also wanted to say that I'm sorry your parents don't see you. I'm sorry it's painful. I admire how clearly you can see the relationship of your behaviour, and what it's behind it. You mentioned you react with a harsh tone, and come across without care, but really you are upset. Understanding this, I think it's so important 'coz we get to understand ourselves better, and thus we may change it if we want to, or explain it to others if we want others to understand.

Regarding that last part. Sigh... Just wanted to say that I cherish and value very much your existence, and that if you want present is your time as well.

I'm sending all of you the very best energy, no night you're alone, 'coz there are people thinking of you. Even if they cannot tell you. To night I'm thinking about you all.

In Lak'ech,

Sea

Just thought I'd drop a post here and check up on you. How are you doing today?