What's your Story? *Possible Trigger*

I just want to add my 2 cents to the 'asking about it'.
I met someone with DID (along as being diagnosed with it myself) and while there is some discomfort there when being asked, straightforward seems to be ok.
Like, knock knock, who's there.
I could imagine it would be an important part of your relationship with your man to make him understand you actually need the info, and working out ways in which you all can communicate safely.
The threatening parts might be just protective of the system, so while you should value your safety first, always, there might be not much to be scared of.

Best of luck with that!

Ms.B223 wrote:Hi there!

So, I'm really interested in hearing your stories. If you have DID, what do you go through on a daily basis? What is it like? Are you able to supress the others if you want?

I thought I'll go back and answer some questions.
Usually I am not able to suppress the alters. I can work out a deal with them, often, to try to stay inside for longer or come out when I am tired and on the edge. But sometimes they just show up and we either co-host or I leave it be and go back in to a more passive mode.
What I go trough on a daily basis:
It used to be hard, and maybe it will be back this way sometime, with the struggles between us and disputes. The inner world was crumbling, changing and there was little safety. Now things are settled down. I forget minor things, like, moments of time disappear and I find myself with worse veye vision, cue that one of us is out co-hosting. I can't share this with anyone but my best long-distance friend who also has DID and is overall a great person, and I met them on here, so please don't leave discouraged. You never know whom you will stumble upon here, and most people, even if they've been unpleasantly triggered, they take a second look back and feel bad for having been triggered, as you have noticed. It's a very friendly community here, so take use of that.
Back to us. We can manage to go trough days without anyone suspecting anything. I personally gave up explaining to my SO that some of us shuffled and I'm someone else *now*. It helps that we are a bit synched and similar (except the Scary, the girl who grew up to be a hooded monster type, but she never bothers anyone) (one of my close friends believes in ghosts so she thinks Scary is a ghost from my childhood). But in general I like to keep it down because it can be hard to explain such things. Maybe your bf struggles with a similar mindframe, but you are open to learning and you should not give up on showing him that you care about this part of his life. He might open up with time.

If you know someone with DID, Have you ever encountered their alters? If so, how many? What was it like? How are you able to be a support and a comfort? How did you get them to open up about it?

Like I said in a previous post, I just observed and initially I was just like "knock knock who's there'. I didn't get direct answers mostly but I could figure it out. I think it is simply an awkward situation anyway, so the simpler you go about it, the more innocent you are with asking questions, the easier it will be for the other party to accept that you have good intentions and that they might want to help you understand things better. Time is crucial. But do take care of yourself, you can't allow yourself to be too strained or on the edge for too long. Always take care.

Or just your life with DID or knowing/being with someone who has it. I want to know as much as I can about this, not just the text book definition, but what people really go through.

Life with someone DID can be pretty normal, to the point where DID is not an issue. I am going trough such a period now, not entirely painlessly on my part, but it works for time of being.

Hope any of this ramble helps,

best!