friends don t want to talk to my alters :(

when an alter is in need,
they cry out for help

ever since the shutdown there is a lot of turmoil so lots of stress

I have friends, told them about the DID.

Asked them simply to, when a message is signed by for instance Indie, to respond to her as Indie and just read and offer a hug.

They don t want to do that. THey say they ll reinforce the alters, and that me, the host, willl disappear. When I haven t been along for so long, barley am now.

I can barely take care of anythin now.

I can barely eat or walk, let alone arrange the innerwworld and see what comes out of it.

Do I shut down to them?

shut them out I mean?

I feel TOTALLY rejected.

I should never have told.

We totally get it.
Sorry, running out of time to post, but you can always PM us if you want to talk.
-Rachelinn

everyone insists on callin host name

they keep adult conversations up even when a little obviously appears and ignore the little ones comments.

they say they do this to get 'me' back.

there is no 'me", never was, never will be

so lonely right now

the pain

I'm so sorry you're friends aren't understanding. Have you tried explaining to them that alters won't go away by ignoring, explaining how DID works and that by not accepting for instance Indie as she is, they are effectively not accepting you?

You are brave to tell them. You have friends here at least

It's hard for us to remember that DDNOS-1/DID is not an easy thing for anyone to come to terms with, especially friends who might not understand it, or be comfortable with the idea of it, or be used to it, or might not know anything about it, or anything like that.

Have you tried explaining how DID develops, how it works, scientific stuff, etc., to your friends?

Here are some websites that you could maybe show them or something to help explain stuff:

http://www.dissociative-identity-disorder.net/

http://www.dissociative-identity-disorder.org/



For the most part, if friends just aren't willing to even let me have the space and freedom to accept myselves and be myself, then those aren't friends I want in my life.

But if they're simply having trouble with understanding, or just aren't comfortable with talking about it or interacting with alters all of a sudden, or don't know anything about it, then I try to help them understand a bit more, or I accept that it makes them uncomfortable and so I don't talk about DID stuff to them, and stuff like that.

Because to them, this is just all of a sudden, out of the blue, you're asking them to write and communicate to a different part of you, with a different name. That can be rather uncomfortable and be a very big change to friends and people who know you in general. They've gotten used to your name, they've gotten used to you just being you, not having a condition, or having alters. Despite there being signs and symptoms in the past, it's different when things actually have an explanation like a condition, and it's different when switches are being made obvious by using alters' names and such.


Give your friends some time to adjust to the concept, and try to be patient and understanding with them, because at least you have what's going on to help things make sense and such. They're just going off of what you're telling them and any prior information they may have been exposed to. So, you know how hard it can be for hosts to come to terms with this and accept it. I imagine it's even hard to come to terms with it and understand it when you're a friend of someone with DID since you don't have it yourself and don't know what's going on and such.


Maybe try to help your friends learn and understand a bit more, and then if they're still unsupportive, I'd consider cutting them out of your life.

I have friends that are uncomfortable with the DID stuff. So I try to be the only alter that socializes with them and I try to not talk about DID stuff. But they aren't unsupportive and they don't tell me what I should and shouldn't do, and they don't care if I do happen to switch, they're just uncomfortable with a lot of exposure to the DID stuff, and while they support us, they'd rather just be left out of DID stuff and topics and not really think about it. Which is fine. Long as they support us and don't complain if I can't hang out because I'm not around, that's fine with me.




-Cassandra

I can relate to what you're talking about. I have had friends who wouldn't let me mention it, and I've also had friends who, when alters tried talking to them, they would just say "where's Kitty" "oh well can I talk to Kitty" "Let Kitty come back" etc. and not really listen. However, since then they have started listening and become very supportive. So they will adjust in time, i think, and once they're used to the idea they'll handle it better.

Still, I know this isn't a comfortable situation to be in. Hoping they adjust soon. *safe hugs if wanted*

I ve posted the websites

And asked to rest the subject for now.

SO Ill write little and only when I can talk properly

this has been such a hard day

i do not tell people.
if they have trouble with fibro and borderline I knew DID would just... I told my SO though. He does not take it seriously. We bite our lips and answer to the name.

We answer to the mane.
We answer because... this leaves us secret.

so this is what happened:

the called the hospital I m at and those NITWITS told them to ignore the alters alltogether.

since ###$ professionals had said this they were at a loss what to do

I don t want those friends anymore

I wanna go homoe but can barely wwalk ###$

can you see if you can transfer hospitals? (not on your own, of course...)

are you able to maybe find doctors that support DID online and call them or something for possible advice or help?

would you be able to explain to your friends about how controversial it is and that some people, including professionals, don't and won't accept that DID is real, or that don't know about DID existing in general?

though i can understand why you won't want those friends anymore, try to understand it from their point of view- their friend suddenly started wanting them to acknowledge other parts/alters of their friend by name, that they've never brought up like this before, this is all new and sudden and out of the blue to them, and then they have professionals telling them to ignore the parts/alters that they felt uncomfortable about acknowledging anyway. if i were your friends, i might be pretty torn and feel stuck too. this isn't easy for anyone involved. the doctors think they're doing the right thing since they don't believe or know about DID. your friends think they're doing the right thing by trusting the doctors/professionals. and you're trying to do the right thing by correcting and helping your friends while fighting the stupid doctors (and there's nothing wrong with wanting alters acknowledged either, but we have to understand, it's hard for some people sometimes to not only accept, but acknowledge an alter/their existence).


is there anyone who could maybe help you get to a different hospital or in touch with a therapist outside the hospital that's familiar with dissociative disorders?


i'm sorry things are so difficult right now.

i hope they get better sooner for you rather than later.




- cassie (age ?)