friends don t want to talk to my alters :(

I just wanted to say that I'm here, listening, caring.

(safe hugs) if wanted.

back to square one.

In fact three out of seventeen apologised.

the others continue to call me host name.

They wanted to support by postin candles on hosts facebook wall.
Specifically asked ad no name

they ALL ADDED host name.

No, they listen to the hospital. Who can blame them. How can I stay on a board and offer support, when I can t be who I am?

I feel lost. I lost friends. Shouldn t ve told at all

th x lifelongthing appreciated

i know it's hard when you don't feel understood or acknowledged...

but please, please try to remember and understand that this isn't easy for them, either.

this isn't easy to come to terms with or grasp or accept or understand or even comprehend for a lot of people, especially if they're not familiar with it, and especially if they have professionals telling them to do the opposite and not believe it and such.

i'm sure they don't mean to hurt you. i'm sure they think they're doing what they should do because they're following what the hospital and the professionals say, but the trouble is the professionals are wrong, and it's hard to tell people that once they've already started listening to the pros.

perhaps it's time to show them you mean to stand your ground and that this is serious to you, and leave the board, or perhaps just take a break from it. perhaps you can do one last post, and then be open with even if they have doubts or something, this is real for you, this is real to you, and you are feeling misunderstood, unacknowledged, and hurt by them at least not listening to your requests.

perhaps you can put a similar post on facebook and let people know that you are hurt and ask them to please at least follow requests you make, such as putting no name for the candles

communicate the best you can, and then try to not worry about it right now

try to worry about yourself and getting well and getting better

you have people who care about you and support you and understand you and accept you here

so you're not alone

i know it hurts that the other people don't understand, but like i said, it's not easy for them, either. right now, they're caught in the middle, trying to help, but not knowing whether or not to listen to the pro's or listen to you, and they probably also need some time to adjust.


and 3 out of 17 is better than nothing, so at least you have that



don't say that

you had every right to tell and you should've told and it's good that you told

because if these people aren't going to at least understand that they should respect your requests, then they're not true good friends, because even if they don't believe you, they should at least respect your requests

you deserve friends who can adjust and will believe you and support you and accept you for you

so if these friends can't accept you for you, all of you for all of you, then that's their loss, not your's


*safe hugs if wanted*




- cassie (age ?)

. How can I stay on a board and offer support, when I can t be who I am?

Because here you can be who you are. We appreciate you and care about you and think about you, specifically you - just like we care specifically about Indie and host and everyone else. Here you can be yourself. We care about you.
(safe hugs) if wanted

thanks ...

they re all .... host host host host host

I ve posted six ish posts over this with info, explanation how professionals can be wrong.
I m upset over the professionals too.When I was goin through psychotic episeds they thought it was dissociation, now it IS that, they want to UP the antipsychotics. FFS.

I appreciate your words.

I understand tehm, told them that. Said, that I feel misunderstood and feel like givin up.

Then they re all like: we love you HOST. AHA YOU RE NOT EVEN TALKIN TO HER.

Right now she s not with me and I hurt cause I miss her so much and yes she ll come back but right now it s so hard.

And i want to rip those candles from my facebook wall.

Three out of 17 is indeed better then nothin BUT they were the ones LEAST postin too

Just feel in hurt.

Had a #######1. Bet Fabio d love that. MIss him too.

Thanks again

Nina11

I get what you mean

Only told 3 people My mom and my 2 best friends

My mom didn't react at all because she has it as well she just hoped I didn't have it

My Female Best Mate just doesn't believe it thinks im 'roleplaying' and say she must have it to then I tried to explain even showed websites but she just didn't respond and keeps ignoring it.

My Male Best friend says It makes sense but he's in shock and speechless and hasn't said anything since so i'm leaving him time to adjust.

Safe hugs to all with my cuddle blanket if needed/wanted.

yea most people don t seem to take it in

I have seven conditions,each one ishard to understand.

bless the internet

i d love a cuddle with your blankie
snif

Nina11

I'm sorry to hear that. We have had 4 (as listed in my signature) but been (wrongfully) diagnosed with many more, as well as had several others earlier on in life that we have been able to heal from.

I hope you find healing and good support irl and here.

thx a lot

So these friends all know one another? It sounds like they got together and came up with what they thought was a clever tactic to use to help you. Only it was a naive and hurtful tactic. Mistakes happen. A least their behavior didn't last long. Call it a collective brain fart and move on.