switching conundrum

Sometimes I feel more stable when I switch less.

Sometimes I feel more stable when I get out more.

But letting others be out more inevitably means more switching.

ho hum, conundrum.

any ideas?

Can you come up with an agreeable alternative?
-Ace

switching usually tends to get better, easier, and feel less "unstable-ing" with time and increases in awareness and knowledge.

it's often hard and uncomfortable for hosts to switch in general because they're used to being out, they're not used to thinking of other alters/parts of themselves or sharing time that much (at least not consciously), they're used to being the ones in control or at least being aware most of the time. as hosts adjust to sharing time over time, it can get easier and less uncomfortable for them.


this thread might be helpful to you. it talks about the difficulties hosts can have with switches and sharing time out, and things that can be worked on to help make that process better:

-- I'm nicer when I'm out front than when I'm inside: http://www.psychforums.com/dissociative-identity/topic107736.html



you can also try to work on co-consciousness and co-hosting, so that there's not full switches going on, if that would help. you can do this by working on communication, increasing awareness and knowledge about yourselves and the system, working on meditation to help clear/calm your mind so that you can be more open to "letting" alters come "up front" or "out" with you, working on "listening in" more and being more aware of alters that might be close/near/"up front", and working on accepting alters and their presence and relaxing yourself/your mind when they're close by or seem to want to share control or something like that.


- cassie (age ?)