Multiple Spotting

Hi all,

a question out of interest: a few in our system claim to have "the Sight", by which they mean they can spot multiple systems/alters in other people even if the front/host is not aware of them. We know quite a few people we suspect are not all alone (but of course we don't rub it in their face....).

On the other hand of course, when all you have is a cracked lens then all you're going to see through it are fragments - that is to say, it could also be the case that in comparing the impressions we each have of a person we might arrive at a 'fragmented' image of them, even if they are not, in fact, fragmented.

Do you have similar experiences? Anyone got "the Sight"?

Gabriel

This is a frequent topic here on the DID Forum. See our thread Do you have DID-dar?

LOL, that's why I couldn't find it via the search funchtion, "DID-ar" didn't occur to us!

I'm not sure if I have accurate DID-ar (lol), but there are a 2 family members I do suspect have DID, and a few more who I think has dissociative issues (I think thats why they think what I'm experiencing is normal!). Actually, as soon as I learned about DID I ran next door and told my neighbor I think we're (me and him) are both DID lol.

For several months before I learned about my DID, we both sat around scratching our heads, both saying, "We can't be the only two people in the world who have these experiences. There has to be a name for what's wrong with us!". We call us "mind twins" bc everything about our personality is exactly a like. When I explained to him about DID and we discussed alters, he told me some stories about his own possible alters, it just never occurred to him that's what they were. He actually drew pictures of all of them when he was younger, which he still has, but he hasn't been able to find it yet.

So, I think this kind of goes more along with the DID-ar thread where someone mentioned, "like attracts like".

*possible religion trigger*

We're pretty sure our dad and possibly more of the people we grew up with are at least severely dissociative and that this facilitated our own state of affairs. When we were 12 we were absolutely convinced our dad was possessed by a demon and that was why he sometimes attacked us. We spent decades convincing ourselves that there is no such thing (because, ya'know, when you're mature you should just accept some people do bad things, no supernatural powers involved ). Now we think we were spot on, although we would not call it a demon any more, more like a very pissed off introject or somesuch....

*trigger end*

ManyShades, we envy you! We're finding it very difficult to talk to anyone about DID, also and especially people we suspect have it. We have a friend who we're nearly 100% sure has a lady companion who is quite interested in us - but he himself is scares sh*tless by the possibility of having alters or (warning, scary music) "a psychiatric condition", so he's avoiding us at the mo.
We'd be SO happy to be able to just normally talk to someone like you and your neighbour, fair play to you guys!

us

tribeofone wrote:We're pretty sure our dad and possibly more of the people we grew up with are at least severely dissociative and that this facilitated our own state of affairs.

You have a lot of company here. That often is the case. Dr Richard Kluft, who has written more than anyone else about the natural history of DID, has found DID in two or more generations of the families of numerous clients.

tribeofone wrote:We have a friend who we're nearly 100% sure has a lady companion who is quite interested in us - but he himself is scares sh*tless by the possibility of having alters or (warning, scary music) "a psychiatric condition", so he's avoiding us at the mo.

This situation comes up a lot too. As they say, the best medicine is tincture of time. To help him the best thing you can do is make yourself your top priority. Take good care of yourself, get help, and thrive. If your friend is a multiple, his parts will be watching closely. They will see that it is okay to be a multiple and safe --- perhaps even desirable --- to come out, and eventually they will come out.

*possible religion trigger*

When we were 12 we were absolutely convinced our dad was possessed by a demon and that was why he sometimes attacked us.

*trigger end*

I always knew there was something wrong with my dad too, but I wasn't sure what. My mom left him when I was 9 and I didn't hear from him again until I was 21, which was when he told me he was diagnosed with bipolar and paranoid schizophrenia. I also thought he was possessed by a demon or the devil. His eyes would turn coal black when he'd go into anger mode and he'd get all crazy-eyed. IMO, DID is possible for him, although I don't remember him enough to make any real opinion on it...BUT, his father was a horrible terrible abusive person...so if I had any contact with my dad, I would suggest he talk to his T about that possibility.

ManyShades, we envy you! We're finding it very difficult to talk to anyone about DID, also and especially people we suspect have it. We have a friend who we're nearly 100% sure has a lady companion who is quite interested in us - but he himself is scares sh*tless by the possibility of having alters or (warning, scary music) "a psychiatric condition", so he's avoiding us at the mo.
We'd be SO happy to be able to just normally talk to someone like you and your neighbour, fair play to you guys!

Lol, thanks! It really depends on what mood I'm in whether or not I'll talk about it and with who. Sometimes I just 'cant' talk about it, or certain DID experiences I 'cant' talk about. I only told my neighbor bc we're so exactly a like and we were trying to figure out what's wrong with us for months. I do believe theres a good chance he has DID, but we didn't talk about it much after that. He "got busy" with school and work....and I think he just forgot about it...which says DID to me even more for him.

He's just now starting to come around again, so he kind of avoided us there for a few months. Like your friend avoiding you...I think that's a big sign. When people are confronted about the subject I've noticed they drop the subject, then avoid me. When I told my aunt I thought I might have DID and what it was her first reaction was, "Oh. OMG, my boyfriend didn't call me last night." After thinking about why her reaction would be that....I realized she has a lot of symptoms, including the severe abuse as a child...and it would explain entirely too much about her behavior over the years.

So, really, I don't have anyone to talk about it to. I tried, but either the subject is immediately dropped and I'm avoided, or I'm told theres nothing wrong with me it's all normal.

Sorry to chime in abit late

But... Closely related my closest friend atm we both meet in high school he triggered me I think my system was calming or hiding. but I meet him the 'voices' sarted getting loud... my admin said you have a choice ignore this boy and be blissfully ignorant or become friend and be taken on a dangerous ride of self discovery. along those lines anyway. I was not aware of my system at the time I told the my admin/voice yes I don't care I'll be his friend he looks like he needs one never looked back beside from the hell we've been dragged through.

my cousin is struggling with his I've always suspected he had atleast bi-polar or bpd. but he got diagnosised with DID awhile back. He would be so moody he'd jump from one end to another at the flick of a switch. but when he moved away I got in contact and he sounded like a completely different person he said he just grew up. until he started losing time different people would start conversations with me and he ended first diagnosised with bi-polar then DID. now he is learning about his system.

another person I meet claimed to have DID. but she had bpd(diagnosised) but I don't talk to her anymore she was a kleptomanic and wouldn't stop stealing me and my friends stuff. and would let out barrys illegal rebellian.

I swear people pick up on it and are just attracted to it or your attracted to it no matter what I've never meet a regular somewhat mentally healthy person and the people who are more mentally stable then me just plain and simple avoid me.

I don't know if I have DID-dar, but Malice claims he can sense when other monsters are nearby.

It's not a claim. People that have the darkness in them have a different feel than regular people. It's a matter of two monsters roaring at each other. You can always tell.

However, I personally get the sense that he only cares because he is measuring himself against them.

I've suspected my father is somewhat dissociative. Probably not DID, though. His father was never diagnosed but if he was he probably would've been diagnosed with PTSD. And when I heard a description of him it fitted my father nicely, although my father was less extreme (he passed away long ago, so I have barely any memory of him and don't remember any pain of him passing away). Indeed, I always knew something wasn't entirely right, but it was my father, so that wasn't possible, right? Or something.

My mother once said (after reading the DID page on Wikipedia, mind you), 'hmmm maybe I'm dissociative too'. Well, she seems to be slightly different at different times, but I don't think it's out-of-ordinary. At least, for now.

So yes, it's in the family, at least from my father's side.

I haven't seen anyone outside my family that I suspected might have it. But I don't really know people so well outside my family.