Delayed emotional response, anyone?

Do you have this experience when we encounter something emotionally intensive, for example being rejected or having a break up? I won't feel a thing when it actually happened, sometime I would feel nothing or sometimes I would just feel sad.. then after couple weeks, all the feelings started to rush in by a slight trigger.. then all of the sudden, I am feeling the rage, the anger, frustration and upset from that event that happened couple weeks ago..?

Do you have that too?!
I usually feel quite numbed when it happened of just feeling very sad about it when someone rejected.. then after couple weeks I would then feel very sad about it.. or have some flash back about what had happened earlier.. I wish that I am more aware and more able to process how I feel at that particular moment.. not after a few weeks later -_-''

:-/

sometimes I am too tired to feel anything, I am in tears so often because I feel so overwhelmed very easily.. are you the same way too?

jaus tail wrote:with me i'm mostly scared of people n so i avoid confronting them. then once the moment has passed i'd either vent out to some friend or i'd think of it to myself.

in a way it's good to be numb at times. being numb at that moment is better than getting angry n lashing out. anger many times leads to regret.

me too.. I am afraid of confrontation too.. but I am learning to speak up and I have to tough it up at work too (learning to) or people would step all over me >_<
I can get angry too.. but not immediately.. LOL
so I can only vent it to my friends ._."

ahh.. it has been a tough week for me! how's yours? I hope you are having a better week than mine!

jaus tail wrote:I've realised that it's ok if I can't confront. Everyone is different. Even a lion runs away when confronted by 10 hyenas. I mostly avoid fighting.

My week has been bad. Thinking of what ifs.

hang in there my friend see if there is anything you can do to make your week better? instead of thinking of what ifs? because there is no what ifs. :-/

I often have delayed emotional responses, too! I think I am coping well with something and then waves of (negative) emotions seem to come out of the blue and crash over me.

slotus wrote:I often have delayed emotional responses, too! I think I am coping well with something and then waves of (negative) emotions seem to come out of the blue and crash over me.

yah I am the same way!
sometimes I just numbed without realizing it.. and I thought I was doing well until I started to feel sad, intensively!
or I am totally not responding well to my friend's emotions then I know I am overwhlemed and numbed..
I think writing it out on the forum helps.. helps me to be staying attune with my feelings..

i have very delayed emotional responses, which for me at least is dissociation-related. i may have an immediate very intense reaction, but within seconds/minutes i'm numb and disconnected and unable to have a reaction at any point for days/weeks/months/years afterwards. even if what happened was very serious, i'm completely disconnected from it when i most certainly shouldn't be. i'll then have very sudden and intense reactions to that event a lot later on. it really sucks tbh.

themissingme wrote:...are you the same way too?

Yes.

I read something recently about the stages of grief, and how there's this theory that instead of five stages there's actually seven, and that "shock" is really the first one. A sort of emotional shunting or numbness, which then leads to denial, anger, bargaining, etc.

https://images.search.yahoo.com/search/ ... ief&fr=w3i

What you're describing sounds like shock and/or denial.

raptureblues wrote:i have very delayed emotional responses, which for me at least is dissociation-related. i may have an immediate very intense reaction, but within seconds/minutes i'm numb and disconnected and unable to have a reaction at any point for days/weeks/months/years afterwards. even if what happened was very serious, i'm completely disconnected from it when i most certainly shouldn't be. i'll then have very sudden and intense reactions to that event a lot later on. it really sucks tbh.

yah I know how that's like.. when someone shocked me.. or upset me.. I would have strong reactions then I would be disconnected... and withdraw.. without me realizing it.. until I suddenly feel very lonely and empty and not being able to give out a normal emotinal response.. and then I would realized (or my friends would point it out to me) that I am numbed..
-_-
I guess we are not alone in this then..