Oh, look, special day worth of multiple entries.

Just had another chat where receiving end was confused why I'd like to hug her. Hiding behind her "I've got a boyfriend/not interested".. Look, I want to hug you, not ###$ you.. =="

What is it with people.. When you're kid it's okay to play with girls. When you go to school, it suddenly changes into something to bully about. Add few more years and "being friends with girls" means pretty much you're in relationship. Add even few more years, and just trying to be friend with a girl is instantly excused by current relationship status.

I recall my chat with mental health nurse, who's opinion was that it doesn't make a difference that my social skills are basically built on behaviour accepted in interwebs. Clearly it is not. With people I've known for years over the interwebs - as well as most of the new met - getting a *hug.* is received well - sort of imaginary show of affection. Try that with anyone you've just recently met irl - even over messenger of some sorts it's received with suspicion and misread for something entirely different..

And all I want is a goddamn hug. I'd be happier for a irl one, but 'imaginery' ones work almost as well to boost my mental state. =-=;

But hugs are weird for a lot of people.

As a gay man for instance when I tried to hug straights I got immediate reactions like "uhhh, step away, no interest". I honestly wanted a hug and nothing else. With arms, not legs But there's just so much fear in their heads they immediately extrapolate that hug into "OMG I don't want to have sex with you". With girls I imagine there's even more of it, because they simply get more unwanted attention and they just think you've found another way of making your advances.

I like going to NA because you just give and receive hugs without any second meaning to them. Men, women, straight, gay, doesn't matter, anyone is huggable. Sometimes lines form because people want to hug each other. I love it.