If someone hurts/kills someone, or commits any crime, out of their own control, there is no justifying imprisonment, in my opinion. I think it's sick and disgusting that there are people who would hold someone responsible for something they did not choose and had no power to stop.

"They're a danger to society" is not a good enough argument. First of all, which society? Second of all, nobody is born obligated to participate or behave in society in any way. That's something that is usually forced upon a person and it's a shame - a crying damn shame - that there are penalties for choosing your own way of life. Third of all, any society so callous and ignorant of individual rights is no society that I value.

I am for putting the person in a hospital (which I suppose could count as imprisonment, but this is for an entirely different purpose), where they will be treated, nurtured, entertained, given proper medical and emotional attention. Able to see and speak to their loved ones, flexibly. Clothed, cleansed and spoken to in a dignified manner. Given as much privacy as is safe to permit them. Educated. Allowed to exercise and step foot outside on at least a daily basis (with supervision). Then released when they are ready to resume their life without having to worry about not being in control of themselves. This would all be for the person's own good and "society" will benefit from it, too.

But jail is never a justifiable option in my opinion. I would much rather see the "criminal" walk free than punished for something they were:
A- Not responsible for. (Unless they knew they were ill and, when in control, actively decided to neglect themselves. I know that I have alters and refuse to seek professional help. If one of my alters killed someone, that is my fault. I am not doing all I can to claim control over my illness and I know that. Relinquishing control is not the same as losing it, or having never had it.)
B- A victim themselves.

People are so busy calling violent people and murders "dangerous" and "monstrous" to realize that they are becoming that way themselves. And it literally makes me sick. I feel more secure around known killers than I do around some of the people who judge them.

Stop being lazy, "society". Actually give as many f--ks about human life as you say you do. Actually think things through and look at the whole picture before formulating an opinion. Actually use that empathy you were born with, and the common sense you claim to have. Actually observe and study the person. Do your JOB. Less jails, more hospitals.

And NEVER jail for the mentally ill. Give them the same chance at a normal, healthy life that the rest of us take for granted as we throw labels around to feel even more disgustingly self-righteous.

I'm seriously thinking of leaving this site. Nothing wrong with the site, but some of the people here just make me want to hurl. Them.

If I tell someone "these are my triggers; stay away from them" and they [b]agree[/b] to the terms (the only way I will enter any kind of relationship in the first place), the proper response to pushing a button would be "I'm sorry" and a real effort not to repeat it again. Same as I do to absolutely [i]everyone I care for[/i]. Insulting me and/or trying to justify what they did, is not.

If you ask me, most people labeled as "Borderline" put up with multitudes more than any human being deserves and on top of that, end up blaming the wrong person when EMOTIONAL-BASED RELATIONSHIPS end because someone failed to be the EMOTIONAL SAFE HAVEN that all chosen companions ought to be.

What "normal" people need to realize is that you do not get to say or do whatever you want in any social situation. There are rules. Follow them or pay the consequences. Period. Labeling certain emotional needs/desires/sensitivities and the varying degrees of such as "unhealthy" or "excessive" is a lame and disgusting way to try and minimize your social obligations.

Otherwise, I should be able to say or do absolutely WHATEVER THE HELL I want to/around you and as long as I can prove I wasn't being intentionally malicious, you should just have to get the hell over it.

No. Doesn't work that way.

State your terms. Because we all have a unique set.
Choose those who comply to them (or at least have the decency to be remorseful when they fail). Because nobody is entitled to your friendship/love.
Discard those who do not make you happy/make you unnecessarily unhappy. Because you are entitled to say "no" to something that disagrees with you.

The pursuit of happiness is an entitlement, which means, in turn, that eliminating what/who infringes upon your happiness is an entitlement.

By all means, if you feel that who/how you are is doing you more harm than good then do something about it. But there is NEVER anything INHERENTLY wrong with you and it's okay to think it's NEVER OKAY for a CHOSEN COMPANION of YOURS to make you feel bad without deep, genuine remorse.

What would truly make me happy.

I want to live my life alone with my thoughts and the people in them. This may classify as sickness or unhealthy/unnatural behavior but by who? Not me, the owner of this life. There is nothing more important to me than me being happy and you cannot argue with happiness. You can not say I've done wrong if I am happy.

My fantasy people, along with the aspects of my personality that differ from and interact with one another, are more than enough companionship I need to remain emotionally satisfied. For external stimulation, there is no end to how many outsiders I can bond with on a superficial level, getting my desires met by them and moving on.

There is no such thing as a universally socially rejected/rejectable person. No matter how I choose to present myself, no matter what I want or need, the internet alone is enough to connect me to the right person(s). As long as I am able to reach out when I want, and I always will be, there's nothing to worry about.

I consider myself an emotionally self-sustaining individual with social tendencies. There are people I cherish and always want to keep close enough to be around if and when I deeply want to. I'd like to be able to travel to well-populated areas if I want some indiscriminate fun. But for the most part I want to be alone.

I'm someone who is labeled as being "excessively" sensitive but the truth is, in emotionally-based relationships, you are entitled to emotional security. As it is a relationship based on how the individuals involved feel about and around each other, responsibility for the emotions you induce in the other person must be accepted. I plan to keep close the one person in my life who at least pretends to understand this. I am also entitled to my principles and moral stand-points, and to judge those who share/do not share them as I see fit. It is not just about how the things people do, say and think make me feel but why they make me feel that way. If I view something/someone as morally disgraceful, I have every right and reason to discard it/them. Refusing to take responsibility for how you make someone feel and therefore respond to you is a moral disgrace in and of itself to me. If you do not like what I say and do to you when you upset me, then don't upset me. We are both equally responsible. As I could have chosen to be a pushover and react however you think I should react, you could have chosen to behave/speak appropriately in the first place according to how you should and should not make me feel. I have these same obligations to the other person.

I cannot justify hurting you, but you cannot justify hurting me either. Accept that you did wrong, I'll accept that I did wrong, and we will apologize, make changes and move on, never repeating that incident. But trying to justify/rationalize something that you did to hurt me is not acceptable. And I never do it unless it is done to me first. If you can admit you were wrong for hurting me, mainly BECAUSE you hurt me, then I will more likely openly admit that I was wrong for lashing out at you.

But let's be real: If it's something you did out of intentional disregard for my feelings or intentional defiance of my boundaries, you literally asked for the consequences. One of those consequences being my pain. And you are never to be anything less than devastated over my pain, no matter what the cause. You are suppose to want to prevent it, and actively avoid causing/triggering it. I have these same obligations. It's not complicated, and it's perfectly fair. If you disturb my emotional peace, show genuine remorse or piss off. I may not always give you time to show remorse before I snap back, it's true, but if you're sorry, I'm sorry. If you're not sorry, bye.

If you do not agree with this, I simply do not have enough respect for your values/lack thereof to even care what you do, say or think. So don't worry. Things between us will remain simple. Just never, ever think we will...

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Every day it is the same miserable routine. We go to sleep and wake up beside each other, often at the same time. You smoke, I smoke, but you smoke cigarettes and I smoke the only daily "medication" I'm willing to accept. You smoke that too. We laugh. We fight. We live off of others because we can't take care of ourselves. We don't go anywhere or speak to anyone. We hurt each other, verbally and physically. We fight, verbally and physically. Nobody wins. You never understand and that's never an excuse to me.

You put crap on my TV.
You are so arrogant.

I hate how every time you demonstrate what you obviously think is extraordinary charm or wit, you smile too hard and look at me a few seconds too long, searching for a response. A reaction. I hate how you search my face, period. If there is something you want to know about me the only correct course of action is to ask me about it. More important than your desire to know is whether or not I am willing to tell. How dare you investigate me in any way? Stripping me of my absolutely indisputable right to control what information you do and do not know about me? It's called privacy, and it's an entitlement.

So is curiosity. ACTING ON IT is NOT. Unless you do it appropriately. Ask me. Ask me what I think or how I feel. Ask me if I'm impressed. Then accept whether and/or how I choose to answer, for that is ALL you are entitled to.

I seriously can't wait until you leave.