I finally figured out what was "wrong" with me and it was the third happiest day of my life. I have been in complete and utter agony for almost 34 years suffering from all of the symptoms of Asperger's.

Regarding your "Nothing is a mistake" piece above, my mum has the exact same feeling as you do. She has often said that she thinks that one offer main missions in life is to help kids with special needs and understand them in ways most other people will not give the time to.

She always was a quiet person before having kids, but when she hasd to defend me as a young kid against assessors who thought I could never interact or because I would not/did not want to complete a "put the blocks in the right holes" task. (Which I probably saw no point in). She took a stance against doctors assumption that they always knew best when reasoning and experience has told me also that this is blatantly wrong. But, mum always knew I had some above average intelligence and now it is paying off with good marks in all my uni assessments and people always telling me through my life that I am a talented student and a nice person to be around.

Her experiences at work and the stories she tells about what goes on socially has helped me to understand the faults of others, but I now also am beginning to see faults in my mum as well, I am really maturing in my social as well as intellectual understanding because of her in some ways. My uni work in sociology and interest in psychology builds on her teachings that has helped me develop a social understanding I never would have had. She has always been emotionally strong, despite suffering with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome over the last 2 years and suffering with anxiety herself at my age (20). She helped my through it with an embodied understanding of what the feelings were like and helping me work through it. She can also "read me like a book" so to speak and has always intuitively known how I feel. We talk a lot about things and recently come to the conclusion that our family on both sides shares autistic traits (known as the broad autism phenotype.) Where traits are not strong enough for a diagnosis, but are recognisable enough to note similarities in family members.

So I say you have discovered a wonderful revelation and should let it help you to allow your daughter to flourish with whatever talents she has and not to doubt your intuitions.

Hey there. you sound like you've been through quite a lot but you've given me some real good help despite issues of your own which I'm very grateful for! I just also wanted to add that I had replied to your previous PM it obviously never sent for some reason. I have replied again so it should be on it's way.