The only good news is that it bothers me less. My husband loves being angry and when he decides it’s okay to be angry and say whatever he wants, he will do that. Counseling has not helped. The neuropsych eval was instructive (to me) but overall there has been no change.
So the issue is whether I will just accept this going forward. Yes, I will.
You guys may not hear from me again. He’s just an a-hole and I married him. I still take my vows seriously. I feel sorry for him that he turns into such an obnoxious $#%^ whenever he’s angry. I don’t think there’s another woman on the planet that would tolerate this and still stay with him. He needs someone to take care of him and I believe God put me with him for that reason.
Till death do us part. For better or for worse. I have learned how to cope and move forward, every time this recurs.
Best wishes to you all.

And best wishes to you. Personally, I'd be glad to hear from you every so often, regardless.