Not sure how moving my Mom into her apartment would make less work for me. I feel she will be calling me all the time telling me she is afraid of something new. She wants to be outside of the city in the more country and yet that means a 20-30 min drive one way for me.

The hardest part when your parent is delusional you start not to believe anything they say. When she goes into the nursing home I will be constantly worried people are not being good to her or hurting her. Of course she will say they are all doing something.
How will I know when she is crying wolf?
Last night someone hit the fire alarm for the entire building and I thought OMG
how would i get her out if this was real?

Was listening to a podcast of a show called After Dark and there was a delusional woman who called in talking about electronic torture. My God it was sad. Hearing how afraid she was really broke my heart. Any one of us could believe these things in our own personal way. But when the sense of fear is overwhelming it makes you wonder how much the human mind and spirit can take. Lately I have been afraid of getting like my Mom --all the fear stuff on the news about genetics really haven't changed how things work they just make us all more afraid.

On an uplifting note a radio show I love called To The Best of Our Knowledge had a really good show on meditation and a program down with prisoners in an Alabama prison. Here is the post to the documentary which was really good. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=46fycKJWSKE
If stories about childhood trauma are something you wish not to listen to give it a skip. However it was really an awesome piece about the freedom of meditation in your own mind.

When my Mom was younger she loved to meditate but never got much of a chance to do it but on rare occasions-- was always working herself to death.