Quite often people spend quite a bit of time finding out what is wrong
with them
or
someone else
Investigation quite often leads to a 'diagnosis', via books, friends or even health professionals.

Lots of people want to find that 'sense of identity'. That is why horoscopes are popular, you are a Leo... so you read the description "ah yes, that's me". Of course if you read the one for Scorpio you would also find it 'fits'. This is because we tend to filter out things that don't support our assumptions and take extra note on the bits that do support it.
Recently I did a test on a health site
Do you feel X often?
Often?
It is like the joke, where the couple are in for counselling.... the counsellor asks if they have sex often? He says "hardly ever". She says "all the time". Further investigation reveals it is once a week. So a persons perception of 'often' is totally irrelevant.

Even going to a professional, it is hard to get a handle on things, one hour. Questions like 'do you feel guilty when you do x". Now some people may feel guilt but not know that discomfort is actually guilt.
So becareful labelling yourself, you are not a jam jar.
There is also the question often asked "can i change" "can the other person change".
This quite goes in conflict with the oft quoted 'be yourself".
With children, we don't say little Johnny is 'changing' but 'he is growing up" or "he is maturing" or 'he is learning life skills".
This could well be carried through to adulthood, when there are behaviours that are causeing pain or difficulty, see it as "learning life skills". Like the adult learning programmes.
A lot of life skills are about balance, you see the workaholic, the person that spends 9 hours on computer gaming etc. Work or computer gaming are fine, if its affecting your other areas of life then you can say 'i'm an addict to work/gaming" or you can say "i want to spend less time on computer/work".
I saw a post on facebook, a dad with a newborn, his comment was "he is a really good baby, has only cried once".
That is NOT a good baby, that is a baby that 'doesn't cry much" (interestingly some babies take a little while to find their voice.... and when they do, are they then a 'bad' baby). Already a two day old baby is being judged as 'good' by some adult standard, nothing to do with how babies work the world with their limited resources.
So thats it with labels. Lazy, try swapping for 'lack motivation to do X" and consider what would motivate you.
To finish up, if there are things in your life that are not in balance, consider 'doing less' of the negative ones and 'doing more' of the positive ones.
Even positive things become negative if they are overdone.
If your house is so ordered to the point a lolly wrapper on the floor causes angst, then consider 'i won't clean for one day a week' and if you are the other end of the spectrum and you can't actually remember what type of floor covering is under the mess consider "once a week I will clean one room to high standard".

Anyway, thats it for the day.