People who must point out your avoidance.

neowhimsical wrote:I'll probably get comments like this for the rest of my life too. It never ends. I just accept it as a part of life and most of the time I take it as a compliment that I'm not one of these blabbering idiots. Silence is golden. I don't find comments like that harmless either. It's rude and anyone who says that to a stranger in front of a group of people has no manners.

I agree completely! People ask me frequently "why are you so quiet?" I think it is as ridiculous as when people used to ask me "why is your skin so pale?" WHY does everything need to have a reason? I have less melanin. My mesolimbic dopamine system is less sensitive and I have more blood flow in the frontal lobes and the anterior or frontal thalamus. Shut the hell up you TOTAL IDIOT......

Unimportant wrote:I agree completely! People ask me frequently "why are you so quiet?" I think it is as ridiculous as when people used to ask me "why is your skin so pale?" WHY does everything need to have a reason? Shut the hell up you TOTAL IDIOT......

I think a lot of extroverts are under such pressure to just "say something" they don't care what exactly comes out of their mouth. How stupid or insulting. They must talk, you aren't really going to do that, so they insult you in the form of a question to get you talking. Defending yourself or whatever.

It does however, make me angry. They recently instituted a "quiet car" on the train I take. I run for that every day just so I can be assured I won't end up next to an extrovert asking dumb questions.

Unimportant wrote:I agree completely! People ask me frequently "why are you so quiet?" I think it is as ridiculous as when people used to ask me "why is your skin so pale?" WHY does everything need to have a reason? I have less melanin. My mesolimbic dopamine system is less sensitive and I have more blood flow in the frontal lobes and the anterior or frontal thalamus. Shut the hell up you TOTAL IDIOT......

Genius

Oh yeah. Happened numerous times. I don't like it.
Sometimes it feels like crime to be introverted. For example I can be so deep in my thoughts that someone comes to ask me: "Can you speak?" It makes me mad. Introversion and extreme inhibition as combination makes life hard.

SaraShaw wrote:I think a lot of extroverts are under such pressure to just "say something" they don't care what exactly comes out of their mouth. How stupid or insulting. They must talk, you aren't really going to do that, so they insult you in the form of a question to get you talking. Defending yourself or whatever.

It does however, make me angry. They recently instituted a "quiet car" on the train I take. I run for that every day just so I can be assured I won't end up next to an extrovert asking dumb questions.

I never thought about it like that...Who knows what goes on in their mind though
do strangers in the train talk to you that often? That doesn't happen to me at all fortunately. Where I live it isn't considered normal to start talking to random strangers

VenusWillendorf wrote:Genius

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Mr.Avoider wrote:Sometimes it feels like crime to be introverted. For example I can be so deep in my thoughts that someone comes to ask me: "Can you speak?" It makes me mad. Introversion and extreme inhibition as combination makes life hard.

I agree, but it can also make you kind of 'mysterious'. I mean if you do not ramble all the time about nonsense you can't say anything wrong either and people can imagine what goes on in your mind which can also be a positive thing. They often say "quiet rivers run deep" and you can use that in your advantage.

Unimportant wrote: That doesn't happen to me at all fortunately. Where I live it isn't considered normal to start talking to random strangers

Interesting you ask, yes they do. It is amazing. But yesterday I was walking in the city on a sidewalk and I noticed a woman walking next to me .. looking like she wanted to talk. I presumed she was going to ask a direction question, tourists often seem to ask me where to go, but this lady just started talking to me. She seemed amazed at my hair, which was in a braid. As if that was magical. I made conversation with all the time presuming she was going to like leave, of course, not. What exactly made her pick me? I finally got rid of her when someone tripped in front of us and fell and she stopped to help and I ran for the hills.

It just seems to me like most extroverts just simply must talk, and the whole, make a rude commentary way seems a way of doing that and getting a conversation going. Drives me nuts.

I could get mad at someone pointing out how quiet i can be, but then i just have to think about how many times i've raged at people for talking too much...