People who must point out your avoidance.

So I am attending a weight loss class. As part of my program.. I have to. Most of the time when I show up... I am exhausted (long day and long commute) and I do not feel like talking. Truth is, I am not following the program 100% so I don't want to talk and forget something crucial. Every time I go, basically have to lie. I do talk to people one on one or in the hall, but I really have little to add. Basically I think the class is stupid and am mostly there only because I have to.

So last week, I got called on and I spoke as required ... and from across the room... another class member pipes up... "she speaks." Oh yeh this is the big extrovert in the class.

Wow that made me mad. First, I just want to know, who are these people who MUST be so concerned about me. I mean really. This guy, I think nothing of him at all. The fact the likes to talk, I have no judgment on that... even though... most of the time he delays class because he can't shut it, and most of the time, his comments are irrelevant to everything... still I don't judge... I don't really care. I am focused on me. But apparently not him. Apparently he has written down my whole speaking career. And felt it would be *fun* not embarrassing to make such a comment.

Boy I swear... you can be an adult in an adult class and still people act like kids. What really what is wrong with people?

When I was in school i was known as one of the quiet kids. Occasionaly i would get some idiot asking me to say some random words because they had never heard me speak before. Wasnt bullying or anything just annoying. I had the urge to punch them in the throat though.

These days within 10 minutes of meeting someone they will point out how quiet and non talkative i am. I went for a blood test two weeks ago and the nurse taking my blood mentioned i wasnt talking much... it may have had something to do with a needle hanging out of my vein ffs.

I think people just like to point out the difference from anything that doesnt fit the norm.

He was just trying to be funny. Poking a little harmless fun at each other. It's what normies do. Probably didn't realize there was an avie in the mix.

I don't think that weight loss class guy meant anything wrong, but

I hate it when that happens, and know how uncomfortable it can feel.

My boyfriends mother always makes statements about who I am, how I am, what I like, dislike, fear etc. Like she has me all figured out..

VenusWillendorf wrote:I don't think that weight loss class guy meant anything wrong, but
I hate it when that happens, and know how uncomfortable it can feel.

I agree he meant no harm.. but still. One of the things that seriously bugs me is that extroverts or "normies" need to speak to live, but often run out of things to say so they drag you down into their extrovertedness. Saying stupidity just to keep the conversation flowing.

It buggggssssss.

I hate people like that, and really question whether it is so harmless. To me he is calling you out, trying to make you feel bad about not being as talkative as he is. I used to let little petty comments like this slide but not any more because you let them get away with it and they will just push the envelope. Id say give him a taste of his own medicine, call him out in group or pull him to the side and let him know you dont appreciate it. I have found the ones with the biggest mouths are also the most cowardly.

Poor guy getting analyzed to shreds because of two simple words

It could be "calling you out" (a phrase I'm not entirely sure I know the correct meaning of, being norwegian and all, but I surmise that it's negative), or it could in fact be a recognition. Like "I know you're there, and I like that you finally speak".

Yup - I'm all too familiar with the "she speaks" comments. Got it every time I said something in high school. Honestly, when they said it, made me even more embarrassed so I would talk even less. Gotta be honest, I think it's really sad that you encountered that in an adult class, figured this type of thing is just an adolescent bullying thing. Apparently not.

- EGD.

I'll probably get comments like this for the rest of my life too. It never ends. I just accept it as a part of life and most of the time I take it as a compliment that I'm not one of these blabbering idiots. Silence is golden. I don't find comments like that harmless either. It's rude and anyone who says that to a stranger in front of a group of people has no manners.

Yeah, I had this at school. It'd always be someone extroverted and kind of smug/sarcastic. A lot of the time I actually was talking to people when they'd say this. Just never to them. They'd say "that kid never smiles" or "it's always the quiet ones you need to watch out for" or something. They'd always seem to make a point of saying it loud enough that I could hear like they don't acknowledge that quiet people have any feelings or something. I guess they voice their feelings all the time so by their logic we don't really exist. Although I suspect they probably just got an ego boost from doing it in front their friends.