Risk-free relationships

miserablefailure wrote:I was reading over on the NPD forum about "devaluation". Is that something that could work for an avoidant? Basically I guess you make sure you notice all the flaws in the other person and watch for signs that they are going to leave you, and you break up with them away first. It avoids the pain of being rejected and you basically prevent yourself from caring enough to get hurt. Can one PD adopt techniques from others?
Anyway I was thinking it over as a way to get some of the benefits of having relationships with other people while reducing the risk. Actually NPD sounds kind of nice in comparison to just being lonely all the time. If you just love yourself so much and you can charm other people into liking you, well I guess it sounds kind of phony...
Of course this idea doesn't help meet someone in the first place. And I don't have any clue how to love myself.

CSRevenant wrote:I don't see why avoidants wouldn't reject people early. I do it fairly often. When people try to get close, I withdraw, and try to push them away. None of em can be trusted anyways.