asking someone out..

Hey, moneystar. Sorry. Morning star. How much money we are talking about?

avoidandacircle wrote:I don't think everybody's joking when they say these things though. I really could care less about the size of a woman's breasts if that helps that particular argument. Anything other than grotesquely large is great with me. My problem with this thread is that there are obviously an awful lot of people round here with extremely low self-esteem and they will take all this at face value and think there's even less point in them trying to go out there and get they guy or girl. Sometimes I think this whole forum isn't very good for some people when all they might see is reinforcements of what useless people they are.

On my part, I most certainly AM joking. I would prefer a larger girl to a skinny one, and there's nothing better than seeing a girl with messy hair and scruffy clothes. That's the one that catches my eye. I don't care for breast size either- If anything, I prefer smaller ones. I just want to be with a person who's mind connects to mine, and nothing more.

For Chucky

avoidandacircle wrote:I don't think everybody's joking when they say these things though. I really could care less about the size of a woman's breasts if that helps that particular argument. Anything other than grotesquely large is great with me. My problem with this thread is that there are obviously an awful lot of people round here with extremely low self-esteem and they will take all this at face value and think there's even less point in them trying to go out there and get they guy or girl. Sometimes I think this whole forum isn't very good for some people when all they might see is reinforcements of what useless people they are.
I would take Ultimate Krang as an example of someone here who mixes a good dose of realism with a positive attitude and real, helpful suggestions. I realise that not everyone is in the fortunate situation to feel they are able to do this, but those that can should perhaps spend more time on that side of things.

I realise I've taken this all too seriously and this probably isn't even the right thread for this. I'm posting it anyway though!

Just hard to be positive when you dont possess any of the traits that the opposite sex is looking for. If you dont have money/power and are not attractive, then the cards are stacked against ya. Prob best bet is to play the lottery and hope you win, cuz if not your not gonna be dating anyone that is attractive. Sure you could settle and try and find someone with low self esteem or pay for companionship but besides that your gonna be on the sidelines watching the game.

Chucky wrote:Holy christ ShadowTerra, what on Earth is that in your avatar! It looks like a big ugly beast. Actually, it'd be funny if under all of that big kick-ass suit there was a skinny guy with a frail body.

( It's a big mechanical "beast" (Magitek armor) from Final Fantasy VI. If you look toward the top you can see Terra. She looks frail, but she's not. Terra is one of my fictional character girl-crushes since way back.)

avoidandacircle wrote:I don't think everybody's joking when they say these things though. I really could care less about the size of a woman's breasts if that helps that particular argument. Anything other than grotesquely large is great with me. My problem with this thread is that there are obviously an awful lot of people round here with extremely low self-esteem and they will take all this at face value and think there's even less point in them trying to go out there and get they guy or girl. Sometimes I think this whole forum isn't very good for some people when all they might see is reinforcements of what useless people they are.
I would take Ultimate Krang as an example of someone here who mixes a good dose of realism with a positive attitude and real, helpful suggestions. I realise that not everyone is in the fortunate situation to feel they are able to do this, but those that can should perhaps spend more time on that side of things.

I realise I've taken this all too seriously and this probably isn't even the right thread for this. I'm posting it anyway though!

I agree with you. These kinds of discussions tend to poke at my insecurities, but it's my own fault for continuing to read them!
FWIW I'm attracted to a variety of male physiques. Temperament and intellectual "muscle" matter more to me, really. Mainly I watch how guys treat other people to determine whether it's worth it to even be attracted.

avoidandacircle wrote:I don't think everybody's joking when they say these things though. I really could care less about the size of a woman's breasts if that helps that particular argument. Anything other than grotesquely large is great with me. My problem with this thread is that there are obviously an awful lot of people round here with extremely low self-esteem and they will take all this at face value and think there's even less point in them trying to go out there and get they guy or girl. Sometimes I think this whole forum isn't very good for some people when all they might see is reinforcements of what useless people they are.
I would take Ultimate Krang as an example of someone here who mixes a good dose of realism with a positive attitude and real, helpful suggestions. I realise that not everyone is in the fortunate situation to feel they are able to do this, but those that can should perhaps spend more time on that side of things.

I realise I've taken this all too seriously and this probably isn't even the right thread for this. I'm posting it anyway though!

avoidantcircle, good point, however i think that people on this forum know all about their own flaws anyway(in fact, we all probably exaggerate them, lets face, the only thing that separates us from "normal" people is our mindset - one of the hardest things to change, i think) and bringing these things up won't make much of a difference really... Having said that, i still think that physical appearance is definitely not the most important trait when it comes down to the opposite sex. I've seen some ugly bastards surrounded with beautiful women, i've seen guys who look like bums and are probably broke but pimping it out. And by the way, just recently i had to conduct a research study for one of my psych papers on what men and women value the most in a potential dating partner and both men and women appeared to rate warmth (as in personality) as the most important trait. Appearance does matter, but not as much as you may think, and most of us probably see ourselves much worse than we actually are. What does matter the most though is your own attitude which is largely influenced by others. I, for example, have a lot of bad memories associated with women, and every time i see a girl that i really like, my mood turns to $#%^ for the whole day, because i feel like i can never have someone like her not because of my looks, not because i need a lot of money for that, but because of my very personality which even i myself loathe

Chucky wrote:Good points have been made here.... ...What I also find knd of 'neat' is the fact that as we age we remain attracted to people only around our own age (in most cases... ...). Like, when you're 16, you wouldn't think that a 30 year old is all too attractive, and you focus on other 16 years olds (or 17, 18, etc). When you ARE 30, however, you find that people aroumnd that age are more attractive.

some older women are HOT!!!! i swear some of them must be thinking the same thing as me to because i have seen some outragous flirting at work..

avoidandacircle wrote: Sometimes I think this whole forum isn't very good for some people when all they might see is reinforcements of what useless people they are.
I would take Ultimate Krang as an example of someone here who mixes a good dose of realism with a positive attitude and real, helpful suggestions. I realise that not everyone is in the fortunate situation to feel they are able to do this, but those that can should perhaps spend more time on that side of things.

i think your right, the majority of the people posting on the forum are stuck in their negative thought patterns(after a lifetime of reinforcement no less) i dont think it is healthy to be surrounded by that kind of thing, why is dont feel like posting here sometimes, and i dont think anyones opinion is going to change that(for an exericse in futility try to rationaly argue against parador, your never gonna get anywhere), im just doing it for myself i think, to reinforce realistic rational thoughts and not to get caught up in the negative... i dont think its gonna make any difference to anyone else here, i think people have to do realise those things for themselves. i used to be the same anyway.

the pain wrote:Just hard to be positive when you dont possess any of the traits that the opposite sex is looking for. If you dont have money/power and are not attractive, then the cards are stacked against ya. Prob best bet is to play the lottery and hope you win, cuz if not your not gonna be dating anyone that is attractive. Sure you could settle and try and find someone with low self esteem or pay for companionship but besides that your gonna be on the sidelines watching the game.

Yeah, and what are these traits the opposite sex is looking for? Is everybody looking for the same things? No! Some people will only go for rich people. Some people will only go for attractive people. Some people will only go for funny people. Some people will only go for sensitive people. Some people will end up with a person and not really understand why, but just know that it works.
Attractiveness is such a multi-faceted thing as well and change massively as you get to know a person.

twistermind wrote:Hey, moneystar. Sorry. Morning star. How much money we are talking about?

Somebody who has a few million stored in the bank.