asking someone out..

ive started talking to a girl who always comes into where i work, i talk to her pretty much everyday now and she told me her name last time i saw her so i think i should just make a move and ask her out, ive never done it before and its a good oppertunity to take some inititive and do it.. i dont wanna leave it to late and she asks me instead either.
anyway yeah, ive never asked a girl out before and i dont wanna do nothing to romantic or anything just normal... any suggestions what i could say ?????

Are you basing the fact that she likes you in that way because she merely talks to you and has given you her name? This is rather quite normal (I mean, to talk to someone and tell them their name). How did you intend to ask her out anyway? If you just say: "Will you go out with me?", then you would have just made your first mistake. You have to give her an offer that she can't really refuse. For example, if you are talking to her about an upcoming film in the cinema and she seems to be openly excited abuot it (the film), then say: "Hey, I've an idea: Do you want to go to see [film title here] with me on Saturday? - It'd be great to see it, don't you think?"

Kevin

Wee, Ult! I never asked a girl to go out with me before.
I should consider what Chucky has said to you. Why and in with situation she told you her name? Have you both have other conversations? Does she seem shy?

definitely go for it!
i'd recommend to make the transition from work-related to a more personal conversation as smooth as u can.
ask her a few things about herself just briefly, see if you can find out what she's into and offer to take her out. just don't be too pushy.. take ur time, don't rush urself.
if she is a regular customer, each time she comes in, try to start a conversation with her and when u feel the vibe and all is going well, pop the question!
anyways, good luck with that mate, i'm sure you'll be fine!

cheers for the encouragement veles!^

chucky, yea i didnt really explain it to well.. we just seem to be getting to know each other slowly, its just relaxed and cool, i dont feel any pressure. i think this is what normal people might do.. ? i just feel comftable so thats why it would be cool to see her outside of work. i kind of went to the cinema with my first gf so i dont wanna do that again i might get bad luck!

Have you asked for her phone number?
That seems to be the definition of letting someone know you're interested.

Chucky wrote:Are you basing the fact that she likes you in that way because she merely talks to you and has given you her name? This is rather quite normal (I mean, to talk to someone and tell them their name). How did you intend to ask her out anyway? If you just say: "Will you go out with me?", then you would have just made your first mistake. You have to give her an offer that she can't really refuse. For example, if you are talking to her about an upcoming film in the cinema and she seems to be openly excited abuot it (the film), then say: "Hey, I've an idea: Do you want to go to see [film title here] with me on Saturday? - It'd be great to see it, don't you think?"

Kevin

That kind of thing doesn't work. This woman I know was talking about wanting to go to the ballet.Perfect opportunity for me. I was going. I said I would love to take her. Then she says that she can't go because she gets car sick. Yes. Really. She gets car sick.

then, what´s the alternative? kidnapping her?

Parador wrote:
That kind of thing doesn't work. This woman I know was talking about wanting to go to the ballet.Perfect opportunity for me. I was going. I said I would love to take her. Then she says that she can't go because she gets car sick. Yes. Really. She gets car sick.

It depends on how the person sees you in the first place though. In your example, the woman obviously had preconceived ideas about you and she was going to say 'no' no matter what way you asked her out. If she was someone at work, then she and her 'mates' would have been talking about you behind your back for a very long time, formulating their own ideas about the person you are.

Kevin

Yeah, definitely ask her. Don't make the mistake that I would and that everybody else here seems to be making that you have to almost be 100% confident she would say yes, before asking her out. That's not how it usually works, and that's why other folks generally have way more relationships than us!