Internet Dating Sites

My therapist suggest to me to think about internet dating sites as a way to meet women. I was thinking 'yeah right, dating sites' So I went online with pretty low expectations. But low and behold I was wrong. I check out few sites, there seen to be at least 40 to 60 women within my age range, within my area. All looking for different things, from causally sex to Mr Right. Some I would be very interested in.

Has anybody try internet dating or try to meet people online? I like the idea of sort of getting to know someone online, before meeting in person. And to be honest I don't meet that many women on a day to day basis. I might post something in relationship forum as well.

My last girlfriend was a girl I got to know on the Internet first, but it was not through a dating website. I got her email address from her older sister who asked me to be nice to her because she was going through a tough time.

I guess that you cannot really lose much through using a dating website. Just create a profile and see what happens. If you don't use it then you will forever wonder what may have been.

Kevin.

Thanks Kev.

I just got to get my hands on digital camera to take take nice smiling shot of myself.

How do you write the description about yourself without feeling totally foolish?

I have thought of it but then I sat down to write the answer to the question "Why should you get to know ....?", I just couldn't write anything I was happy with - it was just so humourless, serious and priggish, but to write anything else would just have been false.

Something I'd never be able to do: putting my face on the 'net. That's why I've always avoided(that word again!) those social and/or dating sites.

The crazy thing is I know that I don't have anything to be ashamed of physically...

Talking to women is alot easier on the internet but taking that first step past the internet is just as hard as meeting women in person. I'm not the most social person online but I'm alot better in person, I always felt like if I ever met any of the people I know online they would be dissapointed because I'm not half as funny or witty or charming as I am online. When talking to people online I try to be as honest as I can about my flaws, all my online friends know I'm a fat ugly introvert with self esteem issues. Being honest with it and acting like I don't give a damn(even though I'm very self concious) helps alot.

Gsf-600 wrote:Something I'd never be able to do: putting my face on the 'net. That's why I've always avoided(that word again!) those social and/or dating sites.

The crazy thing is I know that I don't have anything to be ashamed of physically...

If you aren't ashamed of how you look then why don't you feel comfortable putting your picture up 'there'?

Mortimer wrote:How do you write the description about yourself without feeling totally foolish?

I have thought of it but then I sat down to write the answer to the question "Why should you get to know ....?", I just couldn't write anything I was happy with - it was just so humourless, serious and priggish, but to write anything else would just have been false.

I think you have to be honest as you can. Both in describing yourself physical and what you are interested. No point in gliding the lily. If no one is interested in who you are, I guess you just take it as nothing venture no gain.

The site I was thinking of joining does ask the question 'what sort of person is you ideal partner'. Tough question! But I think if you write a good response, you may garner some more interest than you otherwise would.

That's not such a bad idea. Too bad I can never take a half decent photograph of myself, nor have access to a digital camera. And the fact that I run out of things to say after "Hi, asl?!!?!" I'd hate it to go any further than online even if I wanted it too. I hate using the phone and meeting in real life would be a nightmare. I somehow appear as a very serious person both online and offline, although I like to joke around a lot.

What site are you using? I hate those ideal partner things too. Im thinking of giving this a shot.. I got nothing better to do for the next 3 weeks.

Iced wrote:That's not such a bad idea. Too bad I can never take a half decent photograph of myself, nor have access to a digital camera. And the fact that I run out of things to say after "Hi, asl?!!?!" I'd hate it to go any further than online even if I wanted it too. I hate using the phone and meeting in real life would be a nightmare. I somehow appear as a very serious person both online and offline, although I like to joke around a lot.

I think meeting someone in person would be biggest hurdle for me too. With email, you can take few moments to compose your thoughts and them write something. But with the person right in front of you, you have to response right away. For this to happen you need to be relax, something I'm working on with my therapist.

Iced wrote: What site are you using? I hate those ideal partner things too. Im thinking of giving this a shot.. I got nothing better to do for the next 3 weeks.

I'm going to join RSVP, I think it's the largest dating site here in Australian. I haven't sign up to any yet. I'm still a bit nervous about whole thing and I'm really busy at moment. One thing on top of another. I'm thinking of joining up over Christmas holidays - I've got three weeks off -, take at least few hours to do profile, put so thought into it.