Has anyone else accepted they'd be alone forever?

I'm okay with it. When I'm alone, no one can hurt me. Every time I've decided to leave my own little bubble, I've always been destroyed. It's so much better this way.

I know what you mean. But honestly, it sounds like you are trying to convince yourself.

I really screwed up the last few times I had social opportunities but I finally realized since I've had so few I haven't had much practice.

The solution I believe is to keep practicing, work on learning more social skills, and work on learning to improve your thought processes via CBT or some other very helpful method so you hopefully don't end up destroyed if negative things happen.

That thought pops into my head sometimes and it's just too painful for me. That's the thing, I've been happy with others. Yes, they've been extremely few, but I know it can happen. I want it to happen. But the idea of getting out and trying triggers thinking about all those negatives that come with trying, and then I just don't. I'm not giving up though. For me accepting that I'll be alone forever means accepting that I'll be unhappy forever. I can't accept that.

I try to, but I can't.

Yes. I feel the paranoia is scarier than the anxiety. I've been arrested a few times because I have these delusions that someone is always trying to kill me, so I've tried to harm them first. Any actions, even compliments, by others I keep thinking they've got a hidden motive. I sleep with the light completely on often. I used to sleep all day, but I'm also very terrified of dreaming. You can't snap out of the paranoia or take same approach as you learn social skills. I probably will never get married or find a husband. I haven't really had a boyfriend either. I do have a some male acquaintances who knows about my issues. As much as I want to ask one of them out, I can't because I might harm both of us in the long run. The worst part is I have never shown any feelings that I've got a crush on him. He probably thinks I hate him. Will I be happy being alone forever? Yes. Will I be happier being with others? Absolutely. The anxiety is alot easier to treat.

I have accepted it, yes. It's a reality, so I might as well accept it. I spent years trying to change reality, but you can't do that....or I couldn't. I suppose some people have the inner strength to change a reality, but I just don't. That doesn't eliminate the depression from knowing that there's no one for me, or that no one really gives a damn. I find it best to keep myself as busy as possible with something to take my mind off of the reality.

You can live hoping that one day you are going to meet someone who would love you and accept you. I lived like that for many years, but so many years have passed by and nothing has changed. I imagined many times that I had that love, because it made me feel good just for a while. But then came this heavy realisation that I am not loved and people just don't like me for who I am. It sucks.

I couldn't survive being alone all the time. I need hugs and kisses, someone to laugh with and have deep meaningful conversations with. I love people around on my terms and would die a slow death without people to love and appreciate around me.

I haven't accepted it, but I've got a horrible feeling that's how it will be. My husband died 4 years ago, and I have no children. I've got physical and mental health problems including social anxiety and I find it very difficult to chat to men IRL. I've been getting out and about more lately, which is great, but I've got an uneasy feeling that my moment for love & romance has passed, and I'm really sad about that. Having said that, I'm really grateful for the happy 13 years my husband & I shared - at least I've had the experience of loving and being loved.

My fear of being alone makes me feel obligated to stay in relationships I don't want.