Has anyone else accepted they'd be alone forever?

It's kind of double-edged sword to me.

On one hand I want to be alone because it would mean less emotional stress, less awkward situations and less negativity overall. On the other hand being alone is pointless to me and empty. Thinking that I will spend the rest of my life alone makes me depressed.

sakura1 wrote:i feel anyone who is not ###$ up and is happy wants someone as happy as them.because i would be a burden or couldn't keep up with their social hapiness.

That's right. It's social status matching. Everyone who has a certain status wants someone of equal status or possibly higher but not lower. Rich person wants someone of same status or richer but does not want a poor person.

-- Sun Jun 24, 2018 1:42 pm --

I think I learned that there is an egoistic reason behind reproduction.
We all say that life is hard, it sucks, the society goes downhill, no respect for elders these days and so on. However if life is such why do we reproduce? Why make our children "suffer" and experience this hard life? The reason is what this topic is about - we don't want to be alone.

What do you think?

I've accepted that I'll probably be single for the rest of my life, I maybe once or twice a year have a little bit of a spiral about being single but the rest of the time I'm content because living alone means that I don't have to be anxious.

I've never been able to have a proper relationship, before the avpd got too severe I could handle one night stands if I was drunk but even that doesn't happen now because of the extreme distress it causes me.

I have a couple really good close friends that joke I have a really dirty mind for someone who acts like a nun. I've had people in the past be interested in me and even try to understand my mental health but I have to explain in no uncertain terms that I can't and won't date them because it's not worth the phyco logical game I play with myself and I'm am not some tiny bird with a broken wing that only they can heal... Yeah they actually think that they can fix me by being in a relationship with me and get very pushy.

I think having never been in a true relationship has helped as I personally can't miss something I never had and can only imagine what I think it would be like.

yeah, me. it's easier for me to pay for an escort girl than get rejected in a relationship

TangledBrain wrote: I've had people in the past be interested in me and even try to understand my mental health but I have to explain in no uncertain terms that I can't and won't date them because it's not worth the phyco logical game I play with myself and I'm am not some tiny bird with a broken wing that only they can heal... Yeah they actually think that they can fix me by being in a relationship with me and get very pushy.

THIS. I see so many posts from nons who think all they lack is some magical mystical wand of knowledge we all know of in this group but refuse to share. And yes, some of them are like "well they say they don't want to be in a relationship with me but I just know we have a magical connection.." People need to respect what others say, no matter what they may feel the actual truth is.