How do you feel about compliments?

It took me a long time to learn, but I did learn at one time that the polite and proper response to a compliment is a simple "thank you", and maybe a smile, then shut up. Telling the complimenter why they are wrong is like throwing a nice gift back in their face.

Same here Sky. Always thank people for compliments. Generally because it shuts them up

I was thinking though that I don't give many compliments either. Possibly because they make me uncomfortable. I do give praise, at work. But rarely will I ever compliment you on your outfit. Unless someone is showing something off of course, then I will say the appropriate things.

So those who don't like compliments do you give them, to others? Your family/friends of course, but generally. Just curious if it worked both ways?

RememberRonni wrote:Same here Sky. Always thank people for compliments. Generally because it shuts them up

I was thinking though that I don't give many compliments either. Possibly because they make me uncomfortable. I do give praise, at work. But rarely will I ever compliment you on your outfit. Unless someone is showing something off of course, then I will say the appropriate things.

So those who don't like compliments do you give them, to others? Your family/friends of course, but generally. Just curious if it worked both ways?

I usually give compliments if I really feel that someone achieved something I find spectacular or they wear clothes which I think are really pretty. I don't go complimenting people when I don't feel like this. I don't care if people like me, so I will not kiss their behinds. I noticed that some people who compliment others excessively can get benefits for that. I think this is unfair treatment. These people appear to me double faced and ingenuine, because they say things to get something they want and not because they really think the object or the subject of a compliment is praiseworthy.

And you are bitter and narcissistic.

Bovary wrote:And you are bitter and narcissistic.

yes, I am narcissistic! Thank you for finally making that clear to me. I have thought for a long time that I was avoidant, but thanks to you I finally know who I am - I am a narcissist! yeeeeyy!!!!!!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with having different views and opinions. Everyone is welcome to express what they think and we're not always going to agree. But can we please try not to make this personal.

HopelessRomantic,you only write about how great you are and how much others suck.How is that not narcissistic?

Bovary wrote:HopelessRomantic,you only write about how great you are and how much others suck.How is that not narcissistic?

because I am an INFJ, INFJs believe they are always right!

https://www.personalitypage.com/INFJ.html

Me too, an INFJ. And yet, we don't always agree so we can't both be right!!

HopelessRomantic wrote:

Bovary wrote:HopelessRomantic,you only write about how great you are and how much others suck.How is that not narcissistic?

because I am an INFJ, INFJs believe they are always right!

https://www.personalitypage.com/INFJ.html

All clear now.

I'm curious,what's your enneagram type?