Boy trying to seduce me, need help

hello people,
i am new on this board, discovering it accidentally while searching for resources via google. I would like to get a few things straight so that you can get to know me better. I am currently 16 years old and identity as a exclusively boy attracted individual. I first realized my attraction around the age of 10, through a means which not need be discussed here, not illegal just not the time nor place to discuss this. From now on i will be using the acronym BPM to refer to a "boy attracted pedophile male". when i first realized i was BPM around 6 years ago, it was easy to deal with it, as my sexual urges were small and easy to handle. But i have found that with the passage of time, they have gotten more frequent and much harder to control, almost to the point of impossibility. I have yet to do anything illegal as i am restraining myself from doing so. My only weak point at this time is that a 10 year old boy that i personally know has found out about me and is continuously trying to coerce me into doing sexual actions with him, and with my already strained resistance, this is about to push it over the edge. To make it even worse, the boys parents don't mind this sort of thing at all and even try to push me into losing my composure and giving into the urges. I try to avoid this child at all costs, but he still manages to find me, always when i am in a secluded location by myself, trying to escape the stresses of everyday life. I could really use some support or helpful advice in what to do to maintain my composure and what not. Also, my parents do not know anything about these attractions (they know i am attracted to other males, but just are not knowledgeable of my age preferences).

Hey sorry to hear about your story. I just want you to know that being a pedo does not make you a bad person. I can tell that you are a sexualy frustrated person' maybe you should try masterbating more.

Personaly i fap at least once a day if not twice to........... dirty dirty thoughts xD

Yup thats right im a pedo too although im completly in control and i have no problem controling my urges. Maybe because i fap constantly. I duno?



Just a thought, if it gets worse i think you may nned a therapist.

Welcome inferiority,

I'm glad that you haven't done anything illegal. It's very important that you have self-restraint. I think it would be extremely unfortunate for both you and the younger boy if you let yourself lose control.

Personally, I am very disappointed with the boy's parents. It is not fair to you at all, let alone their son. Would you try to tempt a person to commit a serious crime?

I believe you need to end this dangerous relationship. You need to find a way to not have any involvement with this family any more. If you want help, let us know your ideas or tell us more about the situation, and maybe we can make some suggestions.

I think kouda is right that you can be in control, and that you should consider seeing a therapist. Maybe there is a school counsellor you can see? Or if not, you could always tell your parents that you want to see a therapist to talk about your homosexuality. Stay strong.

It can be very tricky to stay within the law when so many parties are consenting.

When I was 19 a 13-year-old girl was coming onto me. I turned her down purely because of her age. I knew her mother and eventually the subject came up ("I heard my daughter's gay and she wants to go on dates with you?") - less awkward than it sounds because I knew her mum quite well. Anyway, the mother's approach was quite suprising: "oh, that's a shame you didn't fancy her, I think you'd be good together". I can't pretend to fathom her reasons for being so open to the idea of me dating her 13-year-old daughter, but I politely explained that it was purely her age that was stopping me.

Of course, dating her wouldn't necessarily have meant sleeping with her, but in your case, Inferiority, it sounds far more extreme. Even if the parents are consenting, I can imagine that this young boy may in 10 or 20 years' time be very upset that his parents were so liberal in this matter. I would say be extremely cautious. I would also point out that there is a fourth party in the equation, and that is the law of the land.

thanks for all of the support people,
further things i would like to add is that my parents would most likely not let me have support for homosexuality either, because for one they are staunch republicans and opposed to homosexuality, much less pedophilia. When i came out to them as just gay, they flipped out and now the subject never comes up in conversation at all, so seeking therapy for this reason is basically impossible. Next, my family is a great stress source in my life. They are quite dysfunctional and fight, hit, yell, and threaten one another almost daily. The police have had to be called out on occasion. This stress, i know, is a quite common "trigger" and it REALLY does not help my situation either. Also, my father works for the county as a bus driver, and his bus is my only ride home, meaning that i have to ride the same bus as the elementary children, sitting by 2 of them because the bus is always so full, with no personal space at all. No matter how hard i try to isolate myself, it just seems impossible for me to do so. I do not likely see myself doing any offending in my future, but still, the way my life sits now, with all the stress and other powers in charge of my life, it seems that not offending is quite harder to do than offending, instead of the other way around, as it should be.

Personally, I am very disappointed with the boy's parents. It is not fair to you at all, let alone their son. Would you try to tempt a person to commit a serious crime?

These people are....I don't have a right word to call them but you need to level the mouth cannon on them and cut this off. Now you have to wonder about the boy's own situation.

maybe you should try masterbating more.

Oh wow, really expert advice. How about not?

dan1966 wrote:Oh wow, really expert advice. How about not?

Dan, please stop criticising other users' advice, especially when you are offering none of your own.
If you continue to be unsupportive, you will be put on mod-preview so that all your comments have to be first approved by a Moderator or Admin.

Dan, please stop criticising other users' advice

I am offering him advice, not for public posting. In this situation where we have a hyper-sexualized child and a young man being so affected, the last thing you want to offer is further stimullations, don't you think?

dan1966 wrote:I am offering him advice, not for public posting.

Why is your advice not suitable for public posting?
If you have advice for Inferiority, perhaps others would like to hear it too. Let's share advice so that we can help each other.

dan1966 wrote:In this situation where we have a hyper-sexualized child and a young man being so affected, the last thing you want to offer is further stimullations, don't you think?

I am not questioning your opinion. People of differing opinions are welcome here. I am telling you to stop criticising other people's opinions. Not everybody who disagrees with you is wrong. If you cannot show respect for others' views, please do not comment on them.

In a situation like this I think it is important more than anything that you do what you believe is justified that way you will not live your life with regrets. It’s a complicated situation that will affect the rest of your life so, whilst advice is useful, please don’t let someone else make the final judgment call especially on this situation.

Hmm. I must admit your scenario with a willing boy and his consenting parents sounds like a paedophile’s wet dream. It seems dreams are not as perfect in reality. I can not condone you having a sexual relationship with that boy and if I did my message would never see the light of day anyway. Is it possible for you to tell this boy: “Seriously [name]: no means NO!“ and also remain a law-abiding friend and role-model for him whilst demonstrating self restraint?

As I read elsewhere on this site problems shouldn't be run away from...they should be resolved. If you simply run away from this boy you will probably run away from the next boy...and the next boy etc. It isn't fair on you to spend your life shying away because of children. Find a way to solve this issue or it will remain an issue forever. Even if you have to tell him that he has to be the one to leave you alone you if he doesn't stop flirting. That way you will know you don't have to live on a mountain because any boy you see might flirt with you and cause you to stop going anywhere near him. The best part is you can tell people you 'can't stand kids' and not be lying your face off when they ask why you stay away from them.

The bus situation: Unless you can get some other transport you might as well enjoy it whilst it lasts. Like a vicar surrounded by beautiful nuns you might as well look knowing you will never touch. Maybe even gain some peace knowing even though you will never touch them you can appreciate them. It's a little bit of a stretch but if you shy away from such a conflict frequently the behaviour could become part of your personality. The next thing you know people are walking all over you in other relationships of your life (friends, family, boss, etc)! This is why people say 'man up!'. What they mean is: 'find a way to resolve the issue and stop shying away so you can have the confidence to tackle different and bigger obstacles in life on your own later!'...'man up' is certainly shorter.

Whilst there technically is a possibility for an argument in favour of the seizing of an opportunity in a responsible way leading to the resolution of one issue and the simultaneous development of a stress outlet for the others in the form of a trusted confidant and family to vent to or just be yourself with that particular solution can not be fully suggested and/or defended (although it can be put under merciless scrutiny), possibly even as a mere hypothetical solution with a list of possible pros and cons like other solutions, for fear of the entire message being deleted. Carpe diem has never been so controversial!

It will be a great merit to freedom of speech on this site if this message is allowed by the mods. I did try to word it very carefully so as not to strike any controversies head on. I don’t want to break any rules days after joining.

If anybody wants to argue, rant or dissect, question anything I post or just has something to say to me send it in a PM or start another blog. If it is constructive for the OP leave it here. I don’t want to draw attention away from any potentially useful information other people post by having the paragraphs swamped with irrelevant material.

p.s. 'Right' and 'wrong' are both down to human beliefs/morals. If someone tells you what the 'right' thing to do is first ask yourself: 'Do I believe that is the 'right' thing to do?' or even: 'Will that lead to the outcome that I want?' Our Laws can be drawn and changed as a result of the fluctuation of morals of our law makers. Yes they are 'the right things to do' according to those men and women writing them but, rather than be a hypocrite doing one thing whist believing another and wondering why you are confused, you should look at what you believe and act without regret e.g. society's justification of and implementation of slavery and it's eventual abolition after the morals of the law makers changed...with help from human rights activists and anti-slavery campaigners who didn't believe it was 'right' to enslave other people even though the Law implied it was! (I say this pre-emptively as I can't be bothered dealing with the: 'X, Y and Z are the 'right' things to do' argument later).

Goodnight.