Coming out to family

We have come out to many people about having DiD. All have been our friends or therapists and never a family member. Has anyone ever come out to their family before and how did you do it? Our family is very strict and believe that their family is perfect. Being homosexual is near the largest mistake in the history of mankind. Having 3 other personalities will truly not fit well at all. I'm not sure how to go about it.

Anexova, I can understand your situation. As for me my daughter is aware of my alters. My DaD has alittle knowelege but truly will not face the truth. No one else knows as far as family is concered. My daughter has said that when she called me MoM she was told that I was not her mother. The alter said " Excuse me....I am not Your mother my name is Scarlet." My daughter then said "oh okay " and then asked Her dad and he only confirmed what she was told...my daughter's dad and I were divorced at the time. My daughters dad only thought I was a very moody person until a DR. told him I had alters. I have three sisters and two stay away from me. I really don't know why except that they think I am crazy. My other sister and I have re-connected just recently after ten years of no communication ( I wonder if her having cancer has anything to do with our talking again).

Once when Mara (the core) went away for like months, I told her sister cuz she was worried & apparently it "freaked her out". Last time I try to make the bitch feel better. Wish I didn't. Kerry

Think about whether this will help/hinder you in the long term. If they take it bad, then it could make your life a whole lot worse. If you guys can handle worst case scenario then go for it. If not, don't bother. I don't, nor will I ever talk to Mara's family. That's just that. Sabrina

I haven't told anyone. I'm still high school and they have rules and are in charge me of somewhat even though I'm 18. I don't think talking to them would help. I haven't told any friends, because I've never trusted any of them enough to let them know I'm not normal. I have recently made friends with people I trust more than I've trusted anyone else in my life, so hopefully I'll be able to be honest with them soon.

Do you still live with your family and what would you have to put with if you told them the truth. I don't think you have much to gain if you did come out. There are plenty of horror stories on this forum of what happens when this goes. they range from not being accepted to being exploited.

Lacan

I feel that if our system came out and told the family it would help on a few levels. I know I absolutely hate hiding and pretending to be him but on another level I really dislike his family. I hate when they ask me to do things or bring me into family things when it isn't even my family. Hopefully by telling them they wouldn't be so desperate in bringing me into everything. Also we are very short on money(in the negatives). We've been paying for therapy out of our pocket because if we claimed it on our family medical insurance it would show up on the bill and they would figure it out. If they knew we could put it on our insurance and make it easier for us. I am only afraid that they wouldn't accept him further and that's what started this whole thing. It would help greatly but if they don't accept it, it would cause more problems. More advice would help. I'm very happy with what you've said so far.

~Yuriko

In this case, maybe you can tell them a half truth. You find the parts that they can accept more and tell them that. I don't have intension to tell my parents what I have but if to tell it's better I'm just going to tell them a half truth.

Half? I don't understand.

OI oi,

thought I'd just let you have my side of the story here. Emily attempted to tell her family about the System. They laughed and refused to believe it. I know that isn't helpful advice pro-talking, but honestly? Be prepared for it NOT being good.
Jen

Dear Anexova, For me "to tell only half" would mean..tell your family that you are not feeling well, example..depressed, need some counsel or therapy or something without getting into too much detail and then what is ever discussed is between you and the Dr. is private. This way you get the help you need and relieve some financial stress at the same time.. .

The opinion that Mmscandy gave you, it what I meant. AS I know some people who have DID, they go to see a doctor because deprssion, PTSD, and the other problem about their personality confusing. After that, you can see how your family will response and you will know how much further you can tell them.