is there any ways to stop this?

I'm quite young,so me and my boyfriend are'nt having sex and he respects that.
We have been taking things slow and we only do what I'm ready for (hes a bit older than me,but only so much that sex is a problem sometimes)
He has poked me and touched me and things like that..and that was fine, at the time.
Then I realised that out of that horny state I wasnt actually fully ready for that.like, emotionally.
So we havnt done that again and i've explained to him how I feel, he understands and doesnt pressure me.
We have settled for the whole text sex side of things as a kind of middle ground. (..not like just the dirty texts but the masterbating together through texts part aswell)
But..the thing im posting here for..is that when we do, its like..when im 'at climax' where i should orgasm..i pee a little bit.
Its extremely embarrassing and its one of the reasons I didnt want him to poke me again (even though it didnt happen that time) Its just really annoying coz it makes me not want to have text sex because of the mess and sudden change in mood.
Like i dont wanna just kill the whole thing when he asks if i enjoyed it and i reply with "well actually i had to stop early because i pissed myself' and at times I dont tell him when it happens because sometimes it doesnt.
its not normal but aparently it just happens with some women.But I really dont want to be one of them is there anything I can do to stop this from happening?
He tells me its okay and not to worry about it but I do because it makes me not want to do things with him, and when we do have sex i worry that itl happen then..
(i really hope he doesnt see this..coz that would be a bit awkward..)

How old is your boyfriend? If there is a problem, maybe you have to wait until you're a little bit older, or tell a doctor (that can be trusted) about it. You can PM me if you need to talk, by the way.

there's no problems..
hes 17.
na I just wanted to know if there was any way for this to not happen,or not so much anyway.
thank you, by the way

Hi,

This is actually a common problem, but few women talk about it. There is no reason to feel embarrassed about your body's natural responses. Some women pass urine when they're close to orgasm, and some ejaculate (and make a lot more 'mess'!)

You should be able to find information on this topic on the internet. The first couple of links that were displayed in Google when I searched seemed quite useful.

If you are concerned about leaving stains or wet patches on bed linen, you can use a latex/plastic sheet, which are great for when sex gets a bit messy. You may find that by having plastic under you, you aren't so concerned about urinating, and you may be surprised how little urine you actually pass. You can just wipe the plastic sheet clean afterwards.

It looks like medication is available if you find this problem troubling - the drugs oxybutynin and imipramine are mentioned on some webpages. I'd ask a doctor for advice if you want to go down this route.

Otherwise avoiding caffeinated or alcoholic drinks and going to the toilet immediately before sex may help. (Although I prefer to not have an empty bladder during sex – it feels better to me if my bladder is full!) Doing kegel exercises may give you more control over your bladder, but if you are only releasing urine at the point or orgasm, they may not help a lot.

Good luck.

thanks for the advice!
yeah i cant really try anything like the plastic sheet or madications because i couldnt actually do that living with my nana but yeah i will have a look at some things on google if you think i might find something helpful.(i never even thought of that)
I hope i can find some way to control it better