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I'm kind of emberassed.

Postby mutenroshiyo » Sun Jul 29, 2018 12:54 pm

So I'm currently 17 years old, i'm not circumcised and I'm a virgin. I have a question for you guys. So basically i was at this party recently and a girl offered me a bj which probably could've turned into sex, but I declined for a simple reason. Whenever I masturbate I ejaculate extremely quickly.. like 1-2 mins is my max.. unless i try not to like doing the tip of the penis thing or whatever.. So I've tried like kegel exercises and I'm not even sure if I'm doing them right, but I haven't really had any progress at all.. So the girl is really hot and I declined as It would've been emberassing if I came way too quickly which probably would've happened.. I'd appreciate any tips on how to massively improve the duration while masturbating and hopefully one day having sex..
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Postby Trevor100a » Thu Aug 23, 2018 3:09 pm

I think that the doubts and fears what you are going through are quite normal. Masturbation and exploration is expected and not at all a reflection of sexual identity or preference but simple curiosity and developing self awareness. Daily masturbation and even casual mutual masturbation among friends is the norm and quite healthy.
One practice that you can look into since there is much written about it is called edging. It's prescribed by ED physicians and sex therapists but the practice has caught on among avid masturbators in general. It helps build ejaculatory capacity as well as stamina. Such practice can extend your ability to hours before you decide you're ready to ejaculate.
To edge, you must slowly stimulate yourself to erection and keep that up for long periods. Whenever you feel you are about to ejaculate, you slow down for several minutes and when the feeling subsides, you resume. It's really the journey more than the destination. If you practice this daily and stick with it for several weeks you will see and feel the benefits.
Many men find they enjoy chatting and surfing porn for hours while edging, ejaculating on occasion along the way.
It's safe and effective and pleasurable and so certainly worth a try.
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Postby Snaga » Fri Aug 31, 2018 3:10 am

I used to love to edge. I'd set aside time for it. It can be good practice, yes, I agree.

If I timed it right I could manage to release ejaculate without actually orgasming, then mange to keep going for a full orgasm. I found it very pleasurable.
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Re: I'm kind of emberassed.

Postby Trevor100a » Sat Sep 01, 2018 6:58 pm

Snaga, Thx for your reply and confirming. It's what I often hear. Edging, which is generally extended masturbation sessions, has indeed become a popular practice for good reason. It increases duration during sex but it also increases ejaculatory volume and strength which is a reward in itself for most. Many men say there is nothing better than edging for hours along with friends online, chatting, then ejaculating with such intensity. Your craving and appreciation for ejaculating just increases so much then. Something we all want but rarely admit.
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Re: I'm kind of emberassed.

Postby Snaga » Sat Sep 01, 2018 10:03 pm

Well I know if I have a full orgasm, then I'm usually done as far as the lust goes? But letting cum ooze out (sorry, TMI and graphic but that's what we're talking about, here) without actually having orgasmic contractions does mean (for me, anyway) no immediate refractory period (stays hard) and no loss of sexual excitement... I think at my best (couple decades ago) I could manage that a couple times before I'd give in and actually have an orgasm. By that point there wouldn't be much left, ha. And I didn't find it to be a very strong orgasm as far as sensation. But I did enjoy seeing if I could make myself cum without orgasm. And it's a pleasurable sensation of a different kind when you can manage it and it just kinda streams out under its own pressure instead of being forcefully ejected. Takes a little finesse, that's for sure. Have to stop stimulation at just the right moment before orgasm.

But now that's actually releasing something. I'd agree, edging for a long time, without ejaculating at all, then letting yourself cum, esp if you've been working up to it with porn, someone on the phone or computer, etc., can get pretty intense when you let go.

All this does come with a caveat, however... too much wanking and, well, a hand is always going to be tighter than a vagina. First time I was with a woman I was a pretty late bloomer by that time, and while yes, I came quickly because of sexual excitement at actually having sex with a living breathing girl, as far as actual sensations go, I was like... meh..... Lots of masturbation does have that drawback- a woman's not going to feel the same and part of your brain is yelling at you I Don't Feel Anything, Help!!! So that can be a bit of a letdown, your first time. Also websites like brain on porn and stuff maintain that constant fapping to porn is going to set you up for not being satisfied with a partner in the flesh.

So I think it's a balancing act. Since reality is frequently in the middle... Yes, edging is good. Yes, too much masturbation can set you up for disappointment.

Although I'll have to say. if you (OP) had let her give head, it would have not felt the same or as stimulation as masturbation which I think would mean cum less quickly, however that would have been balanced out in part by the excitement at what's finally happening for you. I think any fella's first time, he's gonna not last too long, you know? And I think if a girl's had some experience, she's a: going to expect fellas to sometime cum pretty quick; and b: if she knows your a virgin, well, she's going to expect it for sure, but it doesn't matter 'cause she's the one taking that status from you... eeeeeeverybody wants to be someone's 'first', right?
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Re: I'm kind of emberassed.

Postby maree12 » Sun Dec 16, 2018 4:15 am

So, frankly, if I am giving a guy a bj, then I am quite happy if he cums quickly, it is less work for me, believe me that can get very tiring. And, if it does lead on to real sex, then you have already got your rocks off and it will be a lot harder for you to cum a second time.
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