42 MALE, SEEKING HELP WITH SEX LIFE

Hi, as ive said im looking for help with my sex life. Without going into too much detail like in my blog, im seeking any help to either keep me hard after cumming or prevent me cumming. I have tried many different techniques, pills etc. Some of the pills have helped sometimes, but then not on others. I dont have a problem achieving an erection, or maintaining it usually. Its just the control of cumming, i feel inadequate and get the sense it will be the demise of my marriage if it continues. Surely someone or something is out there, im even prepared to stick a needle in my cock if it would work

Mrjimmy wrote:Hi, as ive said im looking for help with my sex life. Without going into too much detail like in my blog, im seeking any help to either keep me hard after cumming or prevent me cumming. I have tried many different techniques, pills etc. Some of the pills have helped sometimes, but then not on others. I dont have a problem achieving an erection, or maintaining it usually. Its just the control of cumming, i feel inadequate and get the sense it will be the demise of my marriage if it continues. Surely someone or something is out there, im even prepared to stick a needle in my cock if it would work

I feel i have come to the realisation that im jealous and dissapointed that i am not giving her this satisfaction and amount of orgasms as the other men have, well...not with my mouth or cock anyway. So yes, i guess its not her fault its someone new, exciting etc, probably leading to orgasm. so i dont have a Problem as such that she is getting off with these other men (yes i do) i just wish i could accomodate her needs / wishes, then i wouldn't have such problems or concerns. We had another great session the other night, she had cum several times (i pretty sure) but not by my cock, then i came and i felt the ice freeze over as she was not yet finished obviously. Grrrr, then i want to not go there again and be such a dissapointment or what ever, thats how i feel.......... Has anyone any help for me??

You have written about your situation rather chaotically,, but it seems that your main problem is that you are so focused on how to bring pleasure to your wife, that you completely have forgotten about yourself.....

You have to take your power back. To do this, forget about new techniques, pills and other bulls**t. Instead, go for a long walk in nature, away from everyone, CALM DOWN and start to listen to yourself!
Ask yourself following questions - how do I approach sex - am I concentrated on my own pleasure or my wife's? The answer is obvious.
Then ask yourself - how can I start to approach sex, so that I'm FULLY concentrated on my own pleasure?

Although this seems odd and contradicts many "right" theories, it is the main key to the women's pleasure.

You see, most women in sex don't get aroused from man, who makes various sacrifices towards her (including trying to desperately give her orgasm). Instead, women are aroused by the actions of a man, who is confident and does things, what HE wants.

The main advantage of this approach is that there is no pressure on woman. In this case woman can relax, and concentrate on her own feelings, because she sees that man is enjoying himself and gets pleasure from her.

If you are consciously and desperately trying to give her orgasm, she will notice your efforts and start to pressure herself, which will only make her more stressful and tense……. making her unable to reach orgasm, no matter what you will do to her….