Hi,
This is my first post. I'm looking for guidance as I've found non online to help me understand and address my issue. My girlfriend, a generally very kind and caring person with tendencies of getting aggressive when there's conflict is very hard to deal with in the bedroom. She doesn't like to speaking when we are engaged in foreplay as she says it gets her out of the mood. She's also very specific as to how things should unfold and as we don't speak it often makes for disappointment which she then responds to be becoming short-fused, aggressive or sometimes even insolent/condescending.
We belong a more conservative sort of culture and though we're both very sexually open (at least in principle) we have decided not to have sex until after we tie the knot. My issue is we can't seem to get any flow going. On my part I seem not to understand her body nor am I able to read her signals so communication seems of the utmost importance to my wanting to pleasure her. I'm a great lover and have never had any issues bringing women to climax in the past but though I still manage it with my current partner something's lacking and I wish we could talk about it.
I'd appreciate help understanding why she may be reacting this way, why she doesn't like to communicate or how I can address these things as she doesn't agree that we have a problem.
Thank you in advance.