wetting fetish

i've read a few stuff about urolagnia, which relates to sexual arousing by the thought of urine or urination, but i can't relate to some parts of it. i mean, i have this wetting fetish, and that's it. i don't actually enjoy watching a girl pee,no golden showers or any of the sort. i do, though, enjoy watching her pee her pants, bed, etc. first i thought it might relate to some childhood experience, as it is explained in some websites, but i can't really think of any that traumatic... i also had a girlfriend that i told about this (only one so far) and she wanted to try this for me and we did. it was horrible. i mean, it was awesome until i noticed the discomfort she was feeling, it just became wrong. so it's definitely not about humiliation either. thing is, i enjoy watching girls pee themselves but it's not something i'll do alone. i don't care a bit for desperation either. i guess what turns me on is the though of 'not supposed to happen' and someone just not caring and letting go. is anyone here able to tell me something about this? i don't like the fact that i don't understand what triggers this, or how messed up it is.. (messed up isn't quite the word i'm looking for, but it's not a conventional fetish, at least not in 'my world' so...)

thanks!

There's nothing wrong with having a wetting fetish and, indeed, I have such a fetish myself. As fetishes go it's pretty harmless. As to the reasons for it, well they can be many and complex. Early experiences may or may not play a part. Nancy Friday, writing in one of her books referred to nature having 'overstretched itself' by making the sexual organ and the urinary organ one and the same in the male of the species. I think she had a point. The muscles and nerve endings associated with both sexual pleasure and urination, as well as the desperation which precedes it, are close neighbours in both the male and female of the species. It's not therefore difficult to understand how pleasurable sensations connected with urination can apply to sexual activity and vice versa.

I will offer one caveat. I think it's import to remember that as with all fetishes different people have different limits and comfort zones. It6 sounds as though your girlfriend did what she did to please her but clearly didn't feel comfortable with it. Perhaps it might be an idea not to ask her again if you know that's how she'll feel. There are plenty of good online forums which provide a relatively safe outlet for wetting enthusiasts.

well of course asking her again was out of the question. i mean, if she's not having fun it's just wrong. we're no longer together though, this was a while ago. anyway, thanks for your answer man!