Falling In Love With 2 Massage Parlour Girls

I hope that I am posting this in the correct forum, if not, my apologies. I did a Google search for "in love with a massage parlour girl" and this forum came up with another topic about massage parlours. I thought about posting in there but it has looked like it had possibly died down so I thought I'd post my own.

I have been frequently visiting a certain massage parlour in my city. It is of the Asian variety as I have a thing for Asians and I have gotten to know two girls who work there quite well. I see each girl separately and before I realized that there were cameras in the hallways of this place I thought I was being pretty discreet about them not knowing that I was with the other one. However, last week when I got invited to hang out in their "staff room" I saw the big TV on the wall with 9 cameras positioned at the front and back door and at different angles in the hallway. So if they were both working at the same time, which they usually are, they obviously knew because I would have appeared right on the camera in the staff room, even though I tried to assure discretion by setting up my appointments with them ahead of time and meeting me at the door and walking me into a room (they each have given me their cellphone numbers and we text and talk on the phone every so often). I've found out that they each have 2 cellphones. I'm not sure if one is just for work and one is for themselves or what. I seem to have gotten the number for each of their work cell phones, not their personal ones. (not that lucky yet haha).

Sometimes I've visited this place as often as 3 times a week. One girl is 23, the other is 25, I'm 27. As I've become more and more comfortable with each of them, I've started to do become more adventurous when we are together in the room. Condoms are a must in the place, so I'm pretty sure the girls are clean and I have performed oral sex on each of them, making them each orgasm multiple times. (I would think if they weren't clean they would stop me from doing that, but they didn't). Then we would have sex and we would both orgasm. They've both told me that no one else performs oral sex on them or treats them the way I do (whether this is true or not I'm not sure, but I think it is because I have built up their trust). I treat them nicely like a gentlemen should. Their English is not very good but it is good enough to get by and they tell me they are going to be starting to taking English classes at one of the colleges here starting later in the month. Obviously they're friends with each other.

Last week after texting Girl A saying I would come see her at 10pm (they close at 11 and I was very busy that night) she texted back and said to come earlier because she was leaving early that night. I managed to get over there to see her at 9pm. When I got into see her I asked why she was leaving her and she said she and Girl B were going to a concert.

(I should mention that previous to this, the week before I saw Girl A at 10pm and at the end since I knew they were closing I asked if she wanted to go for a drink (this was also factored in to going again at 10pm), she had said yes and so I had a shower and got dressed again while she did the same in another room and started to get the place ready to close with Girl B who I didn't know was there. I waited in the room for her to come back and when she came to get me she said that she invited Girl B to come with us. I was surprised that she knew that I had seen Girl B but I figured it out afterwards with the camera obviously they knew. Anyways we got outside, they spoke to each other in Mandarin and then said "oh we're too tired and it's very cold out (it was only like -1), how about another time?" I was a bit disappointed but I didn't want to show it so I just said okay thats fine no worries and wished them a good night.)

Anyways back to my initial story, when she told me they were going to a concert I thought about it for a bit and said "Oh, really? Can I come?" and she said yes! That's when I got invited to their "staff room" and saw the Tv with the cameras. There were lingerie and clothing and shoes and make up everywhere. It was messy but it was delightful! I borrowed her computer to buy a ticket to the concert online. While on her computer I checked my facebook. When I got to facebook, it had her email address filled in for her to sign in. Her email address was her complete full name. I made a mental note. I have not added her to facebook but I have "creeped" on her profile searching by email address since it is not set to private. They finished getting ready for the concert while I hung out and watched them get all dolled up and had some drinks and snacks they offered me. It was awesome. A third girl who works there was also coming, Girl C, she did not know my name but just kept calling me "handsome young man". There was also another girl, Girl D, but she was not coming. When we left the spa they each had to go to their cars to put their purses away in the trunk, I saw what they each drive, one a Nissan, the other an Infiniti (same cars pretty much!). Then they all piled into my car and we drove down to where the concert was happening. I dropped them off and parked and met them at the door where they had VIP access because of the tickets they had. With the ticket I just bought online I didn't, but they pulled me through and I just had to say "I'm with them". We had a great time at the concert, it was pretty Epic!

The next day I got a text from Girl A in the afternoon asking how I was doing, since the concert only got out at like 3am and I had to be up for work at 7am. It was more of a rave than a concert lol. On my way home from work that evening I decided I would stop by and bring them some bubble tea. I thought that Girl B was going to be there but she was not. I had bought 4 hot bubble teas. I got to snuggle up with Girl A on the couch in the staff room while we drank our tea. But then she had to go because there was a customer. She had to go service him and when she found out that he would only be a half hour I asked if I could stay and wait for her to come back and she said yes. So I hung in the staff room with Girl C & Girl D. Just as Girl A was coming back from finishing up with her client, the boss and owner of the spa came by. Knowing I was probably not allowed to be where I was I sat up immediately and avoided eye contact. She was surprised to see me there for sure. She was also Asian, but is not like a Pimp or anything as these girls are free and not tied down to anyone or anything. We did exchange a "hi", and I could tell I was not welcome. She left the room and I asked Girl C & D if I needed to leave but they both said no it's okay. My Girl A came back to the staff and came to talk to me and said I needed to go. Apparently the boss lady can watch the cameras from off-site and had seen me in and out with Girl A & Girl B a few times. She got mad at Girl A for letting me back to the staff room. Girl A was escorting me out when she said "baby, do you wanna stay for a half hour?". I was really tired and honestly not wanting to have sex but I wanted to be with her and talk so I agreed. We got in the room and we talked and she ensured me that everything was okay and it was not a big deal. We had sex but I was so tired I could not finish. I did make her orgasm twice though. We then said good night and I left.

The next day which was Saturday (New Year's Eve!), I texted Girl B. I said "I brought bubble tea for everyone yesterday but you weren't there! " She laughed and said oh well next time. We texted back and forth a bit and I asked her what she was doing for New Year's. She said she was going to go to Karaoke with the girls. I didn't want to invite myself again so I just said "Oh that should be fun!". I then called Girl A and asked what she was doing and she said she didn't know she was just going to follow the other girls. I knew that Girl A had wanted to see the fireworks, so I told her I was going to see the fireworks if she wanted to come with me. She said she would talk to the other girls and let me know but to text or call Girl B because she wasn't going to be bringing her (work)phone with her if they were to come out. She was thinking they would go to karaoke for awhile and then come to the fireworks. I knew they would not have time to do both. By 10pm I hadn't heard from anyone so I texted Girl B and said "I'm going to the fireworks if you want to come I will come pick you up. She texted back about 20 mins later, okay come get us at 1030. I picked them up and they wanted to get something to eat, but since it was New Year's Eve not a lot was open and if we wanted to see the fireworks we were limited for time. They didn't want any fast food so we went to Denny's and they got food to go. I had to order for them because they were bad at reading the English menu and were just pointing at pictures on it. I thought it was cute. We made it to the fireworks just in time and it was very short. I think were kinda disappointed. They had never seen fireworks here before and were expecting it to be something like what they would do in a big city in China. I told them if we had gotten here earlier there was a band and stuff going on. They were also not dressed for the weather (knowing this might be the case I planned ahead and had some extra stuff in my car for them to wear). I then drove one of them all the way home and the other back to the spa to get her car to go home. In the car driving I joked some more about the bubble tea and Girl B missing out on it. Girl B asked me if I could bring some tomorrow. I said ok just for you and she was happy. I asked Girl A if she wanted some and she said "ok!". I got a kiss from each of them as they left and we said good night. (I had gotten a kiss from Girl A also when I brought the bubble tea the day before, and I usually get kisses from them before, during and after a massage session.

So, Sunday I bought them bubble tea again (more kisses from each one and I got to snuggle with Girl B, and that was right in front of Girl A actually). I was worried about the boss coming again but they said it was okay. But after hanging out with both of them and they both had to service clients at the same time I pretty much had to leave. Girl B said maybe tonight we can watch a movie and for me to call her. I called her at 10pm and asked if she wanted to come over but she said she was too tired so we just said good.

Finally, yesterday I was off work for the holiday and I was pretty bored. I texted each of them and asked how their day was going but then I made the mistake of saying how bored I was and wasn't having a good day etc. Girl B asked how come and when I realized I was being whiny I just said "oh I had some problems to deal with this morning but I'm fine now. Girl A texted me back that she was having a good day but didn't text back after I sent a few whiny & desperate "I'm bored" texts. Around 6pm, Girl B called me, she was leaving the next day to go visit family & friends in another city and wanted to see me before she left. She asked if I wanted to come over for a session. I said I would like to see you but I can't do a session and I was honest with her saying "I'm spending too much money", she said she understood. I said how about I take you out for a drink and quick snack after you are done work. She said okay that sounds good and to call her later to confirm. I called her at 10pm and after a bit of convincing that we would only be out for an hour or so she agreed. She jokingly asked me if I was lonely or missed her and I said "no I just wanted to see you before you go" and she said "I'll be back Friday" and I said I know but it would be nice to see her tonight. She said that Girl A might want to come. I was hoping it would be just the two of us but I said that would be fine. I went to pick her up and Girl A ended up not coming and I saw her leave in a taxi (don't know why she didn't drive that day). Girl D however did come with us. It turned out to be a really nice evening with them. It was a lot of fun and I could tell Girl B had a good time. They did offer to pay but I took care of it. When I dropped them back off I got a good night kiss from Girl B and she said to text her. When I got home I sent her one quick text "Good night! Have fun this week" and she texted back a quick good night. I did not text her today because I don't want to bother her while she is away, I don't even know if she has her "work" phone with her. But I think I will text her tomorrow and said "I don't know if you have your phone with you but I hope you are having fun!"

When I had been hanging and cuddling with Girl A in the staff room and she had to leave for a client, Girl C was still there and said she thought I was Girl A's boyfriend. I just laughed and said "ohh, no I'm not, we're just friends". She said that Girl A & her boyfriend had just broken up so she thought I was a different guy but wasn't sure and she had not seen me at the spa before. When I creeped Girl A's profile on facebook I saw some of her pictures and her status is in a relationship with some guy (who I clicked on and he seems like a total D-Bag!). But she hadn't done anything on her facebook since September. She has numerous gorgeous photos of herself on there, but again nothing updated since September. I texted her today just once "Hi Girl A, how are you" but no reply.
I will leave her alone for a few days unless I hear from her.

ANYWAYS, what I'm getting at here now is, am I in way over my head here or what? Am I being taken for a ride or do these girls both really like me? I am not a player by any means but I really like both of them, but I hate the idea that I might hurt one of them by being with the other. They already know that I've hooked up with each other, but maybe because that was just a "business transaction" they don't care. I've told each of them that I really like them and care about them and come there not just for sex but to see them. Girl A told me once it's hard for her to find a bf with her job, her job is bad she said. I can't imagine what these girls feel like at the end of the day. I mean, yeah they are getting paid but still at what cost to their bodies and self-esteem. I have also started to think and am angry about how guys just go there, use them for sex or to get off and just leave. That really pisses me off. I like to think that I am better than any of those guys because I treat the girls with respect and get to know them. They've both told me that too, that they really like me and that I'm very nice to them and that other guys just come and go but I spend time with them.

At the end of the night last night after Girl B & I kissed and Girl D saw, they both spoke to each other and then Girl D said to me jokingly "I like you, but she loves you!"

I've invited Girl A & B to my place for dinner sometime and to watch a movie. So far nothing on that yet but Girl B said when she gets back next week she wants to. She told Girl D about the idea and invited her too. Girl D said we should all go out next weekend and I said I'd love to!

I like both Girl A & B very much, I care about them both. I fear for their safety sometimes (having seen the guys who come in there when I was watching on the camera). I've told them both if they ever ever need anything at all to call me.

I definitely think Girl B is more into me than Girl A is. But I was more leaning to Girl A. However that has changed since last night and I am really into Girl B now. I want things to become more between us. I think there is potential. She had asked me what I pay for rent in my apartment and I told her and she jokingly asked if she could move in with me and split the rent, I laughed and said yes (of course she could!).

Here's where I get a little creepy though, and it scared me and I can't believe I did it but I did. I've had back luck in relationships in the past. Been lied to a lot, I have a hard time trusting people. On my way home from work I drove by the spa to see who's cars were there so I could deduce who was working and I saw what I thought looked like Girl B's car. I was stunned but thankfully I was wrong. When I got home I called the spa (who's phone number is answered from another location, I blocked my number) and asked who was working tonight. They said Girl A, Girl C and Girl D. I then thought maybe Girl B lent Girl D her car for the week since they both got into Girl B's car last night. I was really curious and it was driving me crazy so at 1030pm tonight I went and sat in a dark parking lot across the street and watched for who would leave when they closed and who would walk to that car. I was terrified that I might get caught and ruin everything but I really wanted to know (but I was far across the street and in the dark). Before I sat in the parking lot across the street I drove through the parking lot of where the spa is and got a closer look at the car. It was not Girl B's car! I was so relieved! So I knew that Girl B actually did leave to go somewhere for the week and was not lying to me. This car was an Infiniti, Girl B drove a Nissan. Turns out this Infiniti belongs to Girl A, who walked out of the spa and into it. Both those cars are so similar looking!. I had gotten there a bit early and saw some guy go in. It bugged me again that he was going to have his way with one of my girls. It's not that I mind them having sex with other people for the money, but I worry about their safety and I care about them. Obviously if I enter a relationship with one of them and they were to keep their job I would have to be okay with that. I guess it would be kinda like the wife who worries about her police officer or fire fighter husband while he's at work.

I'm sorry this was so long but I really needed to get that all out. Any thoughts?

sorry but that was waayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too long lollll. just get to the point.

Welcome JTT8412,

I know it worked out in the film "Pretty Woman", but that was fiction. Sex workers make more money if they get repeat business. To do that, they make their clients feel special, and suggest that they have some kind of relationship with them that goes beyond the normal client-worker relationship. It's like any other sales business.

The used car salesman says he's going to give you a special price, just for you, because you're friends or you barrack for the same football team or you have kids at the same school. He'll even go out of his way to stitch you up a good insurance deal. Then the next time you need a new car you'll go back to the same used car salesman because you think he gave you a good price because he likes you. (When really, he gives everyone the so called "special" prices.) That's what good salespeople do.

If you are looking for a relationship, why are you looking for girls in massage parlours? Whilst you continue to pay money for sexual favours, you are a client. That's okay if that's what you want, but don't delude yourself into thinking you are entering into a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship - you'll probably only get hurt.

The solution to the problem is easier than you think, first think of each girl seperatly, about how and where you have spent money on each girl, besides for sex, and how much they spend or what she does for you. If that seems a little one sided, you spending a lot, then she is using you to get money. If that seems ok then next step is ask out ONE of them, just ONE, take her on a real date, pick her up at her house, bring her flowers, get her out of her normal comfort zone, no bars, no clubs, maybe to a ball game, to a park, to the zoo, a play, a movie(chick flick) spend one on one time where you are not required to buy her stuff, this will tell a lot.
Stop going to that "work place" to visit her or screw her for money, tell her you are not interested in that stuff anymore. see how she reacts to that.
Do you get my drift here?
It is a simple question if she is only your friend to get money or stuff from you, that it what you have to watch to decide...

Short answers?

YES, you're in way over your head with basically what are two prostitutes. They sell sex for money, and to that end they will "have fun" with you in order to keep the money faucet running. Bottom line, YES, YOU'RE BEING USED. And letting yourself be used.

The patronizing of sexual concubines is rooted in control issues for a lot of "johns" and I believe that, based on your past and your obsession with their whereabouts and personal lives, you fit this profile. People who pay for sex very often do it because they feel that they can then control the date, and the woman, and your constant obsessing over them betrays that you are of that nature.

Dude...wow. Are you THAT lonely? Or are you just too fearful of starting a REAL relationship?

I have a very good friend that went through this same scenario, however it was just one Asian girl...you have seemed to have doubled down. I always knew something was up because he would hardly ever get to be alone with her outside of the spa. Her friends or family members would always tag along, and most of the time, he'd be paying for the bill at the end of the night.
Someone said it earlier...these women keep you on the line as long as possible..especially if you are a repeat client. Some of these girls are even married, and their culture accepts this. My buddy was going 3 times a week. I believe he say he'd spend 60 dollars plus another 60 dollars and he even paid more than that in the beginning. That's 1440/month, of course the business get most of that more likely. So you can see right away the huge incentive that is apparent in order to keep clients feeling like they are special. I'm sure they are identified by different levels. Ask yourself how much $ you've spent since you started. You're probably making the Nissan and Infinity payments for them. Let the numbers tell you what is happening...not your cock. This is an addiction. My buddy went to therapy for this...he's ok now though. He's wishing he could take all that money back....and it was a lot.

If you like Asians, go to Asian dance clubs or events...move to Vietnam. I hear they treat American men like kings over there. Quit fooling yourself...the reality is that you obsessing over something that is more than likely never going to happen. Stop watching Asian porn...it's what lead you to this place to begin with.

Thanks for all your efforts writing down this story, shytiger. I guess people might have told you what's between you and sex workers are simply fantansies. Their jobs are to make you feel special and even fall in love with them. Also, sometimes I felt that because of the deficiency of intimacy and love in our daily life, we are so much more likely to fall in love with these sex workers because they provide us with the precious intimacy.

Anyway, these are all my interpretations and I don't know whether really knowing these things could dispel the feeling you have for them. I wondered how things are going on so far? What do you want to do next?

welcome to thee forum.

From what the others are saying: you are being used and you way over your head. Places like that are brutal and you can even be arrested for solicitation of a prostitute. These girls do what strippers and webcam ladies do: make you feel special and appear to like you. They do this to all the johns and the owner is a pimp. She gets a cut or most of the funds from customers. You have an addiction. I hope you are better now and stay out of these places.

I am telling you what I know and have experienced. If you can perform oral on them, so can 100 guys a month. Most likely, she is doing other things too.

You can pm me if you want to talk in more detail. Please stay healthy.

I think it has been a while since anyone has posted from the original message but I can totally relate to your old (hopefully) problem. I went through this same thing and for me, I think it's a combination of being lonely and an ability to control the "relationship". When I felt I was not having luck with "real" relationships I would go to the ASIAN massage parlour and request the same girl every time, which became at least a twice a week habit. I began to have strong feeling for her, and she for me (so she said) She was pretty, sweet, with a body that wouldn't quit, she would kiss me on the mouth the whole time I was with her, deep french kissing... and would listen to my every word and treat me like a KING; which is very difficult to find in the real world of dating or any relationship really... I has been a pattern for me: i would feel lonely, I would go to the massage parlour, get me "needs" met, then leave. These intimate encounters do not require the "work" that a real relationship requires. So, in turn, the massage "therapy" approach does have it's merits. You go in, get out, nobody gets hurt, no drama, no broken hearts, well mine was broken when she was transfered to another state! So, there is a price to be paid, literally and figuratively. My pocketbook has suffered as well as my guilt and selt esteem. I SO want to stop this incredibly selfish and self-destructive behavior.
Any help or advise... anybody?

They do what they do for money. Most men can separate their own fantasy from fiction, and I believe your lack of ability to do so is what has gotten you in trouble in the past, and will continue to be a problem for you. I guarantee you that they are playing you, and everyone else that walks through that door. Most "customers" understand that it's a business transaction. Servicing men is their job. It is a business transaction. They play easy and nice, and you provide money. They will do whatever you want, don't care who you're with, as long as you keep spending your money. They will pretend to orgasm, pretend to love you, and pretend they like you and every other customer they have, and aren't the least bit concerned with contagious diseases you obtain from them, only those additional diseases they may get themselves. You are too vulnerable, and should stay away from professionals who will have you for dinner. Good luck.