I am utterly infatuated with Emma Watson...

Sigh....where to begin. First off, I'm not sure this is the correct forum to post on, but it seemed like the best fit beyond possibly the Relationship issue forums, but...this involves no real relationship. Here it goes:

Ever since recently viewing the newest Harry Potter film: The Half Blood Prince I have been completley obsessed with the actress Emma Watson who portrays Hermione Granger. The way I write could end up being one jumbeled mix, but I have multiple problems to get across. Upon viewing her in the film (actions in this movie portray her as a girl who has had her feelings deeply hurt[involving a boy]), I began to, without trying feeling like I knew her so well, thanks in part to seeing her in a film series over the past 8 years I'm sure, but it can't be the only reason. Upon arriving home later that night I began to fervently scrounge for information on her biography, her life, her friends, her relationships, her future, her attitude, her likes and dislikes, etc. I stayed up from 10:30pm-6:00am basiclly studying her and watching all her interviews on youtube.

For one she is about my age, about 10 months older than I, her 19, me 18. I am a fairly normal 18 year old guy, hadn't had any serious relationships yet but I have no problems interacting with either gender really, I am shy, but not socially awkward. I have grown up looking at porn, but not to an obsession, and nothing extreme enough to affect my views on "real-world" women. Here is where it gets weird for even me (if it wasn't already at this point LOL). I like many horny teenage boys have sexual fantasies fairly often, and after my one night obsession over Hermione I had gotten sexuall excited and decided I'd masturbate hoping the obsession might dwindle. I went to do the deed, and realized It didn't feel right. Normally I have no "real" attraction merley physical, that chick is HOT. But thinking about her while trying to do the deed fealt, not like a sin, but as severe disrespect to a person I had known or loved for a long time. I finished my buisness thinking aout nothing at all, and afterwards...my feelings hadn't changed. When I watch or read about her, I am examining how much I love everything about her. She is my age, (like so many girls I know), but she is utterly beautiful, her accent drives me crazy, she appears very sweet, in her interviews she displays actions that just in my head RING PERFECT WOMAN. Her attitude, activiities, appearance, mannerisms, EVERYTHING. I even got jealous seeing a picture of her kissing her boyfriend.

I have never experienced something like this before with any celebrity I have never met. Not even close to this sever with girls I have had crushes on. 2 days have passed and I find myself during sessions of free time not wanting to do my daily things...hang out with friends, play video games, watch tv, see a movie, hell look at porn when bored...I just want to find and read more about Emma Watson. I am mature enough to know THIS ISNT HEALTHY. But no matter how many times I try to tell myself I know I will never meet her, it ISNT GOING to happen, it isnt good for me to think like this, there are plenty of other girls, my mind just settles back to how muchI would give to be with her.

In closing I have a few last pieces of information about myself andd current issues as well as research I've done. I have looked up my problem and read something about Ertomania. After looking deeper into that though I read it is the obsessive belief that someone is mutually attracted to a person..so it isn't that. I am obsessed with her, but I know 100% she has no idea I exist or would evr find my obsessions attractive in any way, shape, or form. I have enough knowledge about stuff like this for a young adult that I thought I could drop my obsession (I almsot even wwant to call it love, but we all know it isnt really) on my own, but I found out quickly I can't. I don't have the money to see a professional about it either, it is seriouslly affectinng my daily thoughts to the point it makes me worry. Tommorow I start my college life and move into a dorm, college starts on the 24th. Emma starts college this year too, a week after me (I told you it was bad). I am somewhat nervous about starting a new life and with the stress of apporaching classes and being on my own. I wonder if this could subconciouslly have an affect with the timing of seeing Harry Potter have partially triggered my deep obsession.

Upon looking for info on her as well, it seems like numerous other forum posters on her videos fealt similar to me. "In love" with her, respect her as a woman, beautiful, want to marry her. ...I just don't know what it is! I feel like my mmind is telling me I desire a female partner to be with...but then I jsut think about how much more I would enjoy spending my liffe with Emma Watson.

-A partially scared young adult.

Any advice, words of help, ANYTHING towards my problem is greatly appreciated!

Hi,

I fail to see how this is a problem, as such. Sure, you have an intense longing for her, but that is natural, right? We all have huge infauations with people, but don't go assuming that it's a sign of there being a problem. Instead, explore the infatuation and don't let it scare you.

Kevin

Uh....no, personally I think this is a problem...definitely. I have no idea how someone could see this as completely healthy.

Yes yes celebrity crushes are common but yours is obviously a bit more extreme.....its good that you're extremely mature and aware of your issue. If the obsession is dwindling now, and you a feeling back to normal soon, that's good....then this obsession is just a phase for sure. But if you are still obsessed with her....

....Then I have no idea how to help you, lol, but I would say there is just something chemically off-set in your brain (like ...almost every psychological problem lol, Im no expert obviously....). Go to a psychologist for sure.

I am with Chucky on this. This is not abnormal! Hell, I am infatuated with a couple of waitresses I know! As soon as you latch onto some real life love interest, I predict you will forget all about this. You would be wasting your money to see a psychologist. If you find some little honey with hot pants you won't be thinking about Emma Watson anymore. Trust me.

Well, maybe I'm right or maybe I'm wrong about it, but i know that I personally had infatuations like this when I was younger. Just think of all of those other people who make it onto TV shows who have - like - posters of Jason Donovan or Britney Spears plastered all over their bedroom walls. Do these people have problems too? I think that an infatuation like this can be healthy, so long as the person doesn't let themselves become scared by it. I mean, that's why I asked the person who started this thread to 'explore' the infatuation and not to be scared of it.

While saying this, it could be an indication of an obsessive-type personality, but this would only be apparent by other things in the person's life. So, Heathly, what other infatuations/obsessions have you got?

Kevin

I think you'll be fine. You seem very logical and the fact that you understand that nothing will truly come of such an obsession, then you're good. I've had similar experiences. I think it's a way to relate when you're lonely. That sounds hokey and a bit of a stretch, but I am only speaking from my experience.
Of course, you're the best judge of yourself. If you truly believe it's a problem, go get some help (get medicaid, or something). Only because I can identify with this a great deal, I believe you have some anxiety problems. My dad used to freak out and think he was becoming schizophrenic. I'm not trying to make lite of things. it is a pretty strange thing to just develop something like that.

But ay, there are a lot of ppl who don't have the insight you have and become obsessed with celebrities. It can be a problem. But for you, I don't believe that's what's going on. Do investigate if it goes any further or doesn't fade.


Good luck.

-jbc

Hi,
I know this is quite an old thread but I'm going through something very similar to you right now. I'm not obsessed with Emma Watson but I am unhealthily infatuated with someone in the public eye and I don't know how to make it stop. I've got rid of all his media, and I'm just trying to act like he doesn't exist (because in my life he really doesn't!) but I still feel like he's haunting my mind.

How are you getting on with yours? Did you see someone about it or are you getting rid of it on your own?
Best,
Mariposa

I totally understand what the OP is going through as this is exactly word for word my delima. I too am obsessed to the point of madness with Emma Watson. I've spent the past week frantically searching for more and more information of her online and longing over photos of her. It's the wierdest thing because I've seen all the Harry Potter movies to date and not only until recently did I find myself "in love" with her. I feel hopeless because I know I will never meet her. It could be because of my extreme lonliness, I haven't had a girlfriend in three years and my current situation prevents me from even leaving the house. It's wierd, glad to see I'm not the only one who has this problem.

Hello to everyone with or without Emma Watson obsession,

I, too, can totally understand what's going on with you. I have had it since January, last year. It has totally changed my life, almost to the point of madness. But now, for the last month I have started to work on it. The worst part is that after some time, if you continue with your obsession, you are going to believe that you are made for Emma Watson. You are going to want to desperately meet her. If you do not succeed in meeting her you will get hopeless, depressed, desperate. Thus you will abandon your own life, it will seem unimportant compared with the life of Emma, you won't care about family, friends etc. till you'll have suicidal thoughts.
I don't want to scare anyone, I just want to present the consequences of this obsession.
I mean, I even went to the point of following what she was doing on the internet ,of course, then checking Google every half an hour to find images of her. I know, it's madness.

But hey, think about your own life, think about girls that surround you. Though I know some girls that are as pretty as Emma, every time I thought about other girls, I repressed it, feeling guilty. So you see, I too had this delusion that I know her. Yet I am sure now I do not know her. Like you, I have watched all HP movies, practically grew up with them. I am 18 years old like you. It's great that even Emma had a say on this:

"People have the strange feeling of knowing me intimately because they have seen my transformation from child to woman, albeit only on screen.”

So you see, you're not alone. There are lots of others struggling with this same problem right now. In my opinion, she's a large international phenomenon, like Marilyn Monroe was for our grandfathers, hehe. It helped me a lot when I read your posts. Life is great. You just have to discover more of your own life. There are a lot of really nice girls out there. Many men have wasted and gave up their lives yearning forever for the unrequited love. You just have to decide if you want to be one of them. By the way, she has a boyfriend, Jay, and I can tell you their relationship is rock solid. Emma does not know that we ever existed and will never. She'll marry probably Jay or one of his kind. Her being an upper-middle class British woman, she'll probably marry an upper-middle (Jay Barrymore) or upper class British man. Or an Italian upper class man, you get the idea.
You have to accept this. Otherwise, you might still find yourself fantasizing.

If anybody has any suggestion regarding my case I'd be happy to read it. And I'd love to hear your thoughts on your own situation.

One final advice: It’s one of my beliefs that you should talk about it. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
I have written anything I wanted to for now. Hope this helps.
Anyway,
Peace, and keep on fighting

an eager helper

bro you just have to stop thinking about her-- I don't think you have something you need to be clinically diagnosed for. You're just allowing yourself to constantly watch videos of her, read about her, think about her-- you don't even know her, just be strong and get her out of your head. By banking on the fact that there might be something wrong with you, you're just allowing yourself to become more and more obsessed with her. We've all had celebrity infatuations, but you just let yourself go too far here and you just have to cut things off before it gets worse.