Solosexual

Is it possible for my addiction to masturbation to be a choice, rather than a problem?

I spend on average 3 hours a day masturbating and some days as many as 8 hours. I really do love to masturbate and am quite content. I enjoy porn..cam..mic and phone sex (including pay) and when I am not doing it it is all I think about. It started as an early teen and I have never been abused or molested. I have just enjoyed masturbation and feeling that high from an early age.

I consider myself solosexual because I dont pursue or want intercourse.

One area it has affected my life is sleep...I sacrafice sleep for keeping the session going....which does leave me tired and irritable. I have tried stopping but the craving comes back stronger. I have been "clean" the past couple days but not sure how much longer I can abstain or even if I should abstain?

Is anyone else like this or has been like this? Am I too far gone?

Abstinence might not be the right choice, i think.
You should try to keep it moderate. Like starting to limit your masturbation time per day.

I think it can be a choice yes! U know what u need more than anyone and just focussing on ur own needs can get u so much more satisfaction. Gets to the point where trying to satisfy someone else can get in the way. X

Jaded7600isme wrote:I think it can be a choice yes! U know what u need more than anyone and just focussing on ur own needs can get u so much more satisfaction. Gets to the point where trying to satisfy someone else can get in the way. X

Its always a choice, but it might not be the right one.
Why is it my opinion? Sex is important, its part of life too. It helps us to discharge some energies, it helps us to relax. Its physiologic. Abstinence might enhance anxiety and most people. Anxiety, insomnias, stress, even trigger some panic attacks (on some people with other health situations).
Reducing to a "normal" rate its what i recommend. Cutting it off 100%, i think, its not the best choice.

I agree it's not necessarily the most healthy Choice. I'm just saying it can be one. I do think that it can get a choice that it so enjoyable that it can get in the way of real loving relationships tho x

Thanks for the responses.

I tried making the choice not to masturbate,but that only made me want it even more. I have been consumed by the feeling and desire to masturbate.

Is there something that triggers the urge to masturbate? An event or an emotion maybe. Looking out for those can help you tackle this. You might be able to find replacements that are still rewarding. But that don't consume so much time or focus.

And, what are the feelings that come up when you deliberately deny yourself this release? They can give some clues about the benefits of masturbation for you. For example, it could be anger or anxiety. Again, finding other ways to express them. Might help you gain more control over this habit.

If you are happy as you are. and you don't feel like this is controlling your time or thought more than you're comfortable with. Then no change is needed. Some people watch TV for this amount of time a day. And apparently that's considered "normal." But the way you describe being "consumed." And that you couldn't freely choose not to do it. That suggests that you might not be fully in control of it. Which still isn't something to worry over necessarily. But in the long term, you may want to be able to make other choices too.

Hi Solosexual, Some of your Traits matches me as well, I used to spend lot of time on masturbation especially in porn and video cam sites . I have not been successful in fighting against it . But i believe what i found to be a reason for failing each time is that on each day i start thinking that i shouldn't be masturbating today but where i end up doing it within first quarter of a day . Engage yourself in some other activities .Dont think you need to quit , better start with other activities which keeps you busy. Try if it works. Suggestions from you are welcome.