When you start thinking eveyone else is crazy.....

I have a mental problem, I think, this belief that I have a mental problem stems from the idea that I believe everyone I know has problems.
One or both may be true or false I guess, but since there is an element of self doubt and paranoia niether myself or anyone I meet can pass a judgement on the matter I can accept.

I realise there are people with problems, both biological and environmental, that far surpass my own and I should just get on with things,you are not abligated to read on but if you should any opinions on the matter are appreciated.....

I feel almost everyone I have ever known, no everyone I have ever known, is merely acting on impulse with no iota of self awareness.
Victims of cause and effect, unable to see that people do "good" things out of fear of self loathing and punishment. Instead choosing to believe the world is made up of rainbows and puppydog tails, believing when they die their good deeds will be rewarded and they will all go to disneyland.

Watching them get corrupted by their own desire for self satisfaction; warping their religeous beliefs, ethical code, and other such instilled values to validate completely selfish actions is not what bothers me, it is their refusial to see that there is no right and wrong.... just needs and wants, refusing to see the somewhat suspect correlation between what they define as right and what they want.

How do I instill a sense of selfawareness on those around me is the question?

This I hope will not turn into a debate on religion, whilst I don't believe in God I respect others right to do so...... just as they should respect my right to question it.

Hi homemade,

homemade wrote:it is their refusial to see that there is no right and wrong.... just needs and wants, refusing to see the somewhat suspect correlation between what they define as right and what they want.

I agree with you. I cannot stand bigotry. I am frustrated when people think that theirs is the only valid viewpoint and refuse to respect differing opinions.

You cannot control other people; only your own thoughts and actions. You cannot change them, but you can change yourself. You can serve as an example to inspire others. "Be the change you want to see in the world." - Gandhi

Beyond that, maybe try to promote acceptance. Accept others despite their lack of self-awareness in the hope that they will in turn accept people who differ from them.

I agree with platypus. Sometimes I get annoyed and irritable with people (I generally don't like people anyway, I think they clutter up the road when I'm driving and need to get from A to B fast) but you can't control people and how they think. That quote from Gandhi is spot on. Sometimes, when I think about how unaware people are, I also realise what a snob I am, so I stop thinking about them and start thinking about me, and how I can stop judging people

First off, I'd like to say that I have the same problem. Secondly, I would like to say that these responces are great and also very true.

One thing I realized is that we are all hypocrites. Again I judge people all the time, I'm trying to stop, and I know how you feel but no one has the right to judge anyone. We all do something, no matter who you are that makes you a hypocrite. One thing that I do is I don't like people that say one thing and do another. For example, someone I know has two parents that are reverands and pastors in the church and she'll call on Jesus this and Jesus that all the time. But, she messes around with different guies. This burns me up. In my mind I'm saying how are you calling on his name and this and that when you don't live by it (I'm also not a Christian). I have good male friends who do the same things but, I don't judge them at all. That's just me being a hypocrite.

We don't know where people come from and what has happened to them to get them to the point that they are at. The brain's of different people function differently, what could be blatant hypocricy to you, another person could not even see. Some people look for the truth, like I do (I'm assuming you do to) and some people just want to fit in and I believe that's just how they are born. They want to make sure everybody is happy and fit in, truth and hypocracy doesn't matter to them. Again, I think that some people are just like that. In the Myers Brigg model these people are called Harmony types. This ability to see others hypocracies and the truth is both a gift and a curse. I see it all the time. But, I have to understand that I have my own.

Another thing that helped me deal with other people is to understand that people have little to do with the way they are. I read in a book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" that if you or I were born with the mind of Al Capone, the short temperment of Al Capone, and grew up in the same hard survival environment as Al Capone we would be Al Capone.

Another question that I have is are these people just immature? I used to think that I'm just more mature than these people. I know for a fact that I'm more judgemental than other people. I might be more mature than some people in someways and their more mature to me in others. I don't know.
Please give me some feedback.

I believe that America has become a society in which it is cool to say one thing and do another. I believe it's because of all the immature tv we watch and the Christian faith. Christianity gives you all these impossible rules to live up to and you claim to be Christians and then when you mess up, you can just blame the devil, or its like you not living up to your word is expected and its the norm. I really think Christianity has a lot to do with it. But, that's just me being judgemental again.

Please post any thoughts I would love to hear them.

You and I can't change anybody, all we can do is associate with people that we want to associate with and stay away from those that we just can't cope with.