DOG wrote:Ugly doesn't exist.
I've never seen someone who is ugly. I've seen people who try too hard, they arn't attractive. I've seen people who just snarl and moan all the time- they arn't attractive. And I've seen people who sink comfortably into themselves, in self love- they fill them selves with their own ego you cant fit anyone else in their lives. I've seen people who crumble into themselves, hating every minuet, but not trying to escape- you just can't see them, they've gotten so good at hiding themselves.
Just being a good person makes you beautiful, to me and anyone else worth your time. You don't need to be happy all the time, either- you don't have to be anything.
For all the "beautiful" girls I know, who cake themselves in makeup, or wear tiny skirts, and change their "lovers" like they change their sheets, I have never felt a thing for them. The ones who know they've got guys bending backwords for them- I could never be intrested. Infact, I've never felt intrested in anyone in that way- wanting to hold their hand, hold them close- because of how they look. How could anyone? I never thought I would feel that way at all. I thought it was all fake. But I found someone... no one seemed to notice her. But the more I knew her the more beautiful she became. Her smile, her walk, her laugh, her angry face, her hair... everything. I'd never noticed it before. But when I knew her, her personality, everything became so, so beautiful.
Haha, she hates me now.
But just let somone discover you.. and they'll find what I found in her. And once you find that, I don't think anything else is worth finding.
What this guy said. I'm sure there's people who find me a 1/10 and some who find me a 10/10. That's all cool. My opinions on movies, music, games, tv, books, art, poetry, places, people etc are all just that OPINIONS of mine... There's no hard line truths.. beautiful, ugly, odd, etc...
You feel ugly, and you probably project that, not confident, no smile, not looking people in the eyes. Have you considered going for CBT or similar? Have you considered writing out how you feel and monitoring it. Looking back over feelings with a calm mind can dispel some off kilter thinking. If you write it, and rate it at the time, it's invaluable to look back and think: well that actually went well!
Trust me this is something you can fix, the frustration is that you probably think you don't deserve help: but YOU DO. You really really really do! And once you start taking steps you can free that beautiful girl that's inside you and let her have the happiness she deservers. Look you may not belive me, i'm some irish guy on a web forum, but FIND someone you DO BELIEVE IN. Whoever it may be, parent, sibling, friend, me, someone on here, your doctor, a councellor, a teacher, a college and TALK TO THEM. The hardest step is to say: I'm going to fix this. I really am. Once you do that, and make an appointment (I recommend a good GP first and go from there) you will start to feel better already. The steps get easier and faster, and you begin to gallop. Look I don't want to throw cheesy, touchy feely rubbish at you, however, this can be fixed. That is a cold hard fact. You should do it too. For YOU. And for everyone you care about too, they want you to be happy, so do I for that matter!
Good luck OP, please get started and keep us posted.
Ross