Reaction to praise/criticism

smirks wrote:So, there is a question of whether people with SPD feel but do not express a reaction to praise/criticism, or whether they do not feel anything in reaction to praise/criticism.

Not at all, myself. I mean, other than the mild discomfort that comes with knowing that people expect a reaction. I would rather avoid all notice. But my mask has improved, I think.

I am not dependent on praise. Neither am I affected by criticism. If you would say "You are just sitting on your ass all day not being very productive", then you are correct. I suppose that can be seen as valid criticism.

semi-random mood anomalies aside, whether i'm affected or not by praise or criticism depends almost exclusively on context and on who is praising/criticising me. or, more specifically, it depends on whether the person's opinion matters to me (either by personal choice or due to the circumstances, like with a client). by default, a person's opinion doesn't matter to me until there's a reason for it to matter

in impersonal circumstances, it makes me worried and anxious about accountability. i'm not employed by anyone, but the work i do is usually for big companies. i have learned in practice that the #1 motivator for all work done in big companies and any other corporate-like environment is deflecting accountability as much possible. if you want to survive in that kind of ecosystem, it's what you have to do. it's what the whole work structure is based on. praise means i'm not being held accountable. criticism means i am. it's how it works

with the very few people whose opinion matters to me in a personal way, it's different. i can be affected very deeply. it affects my entire state of mind and the way i look at things. although the measure there for how much it affects me is not the degree of praise or criticism, but the fear of loss that may be associated (or relief, when i'm being praised). so i may be inflexible about whatever i'm being criticised on, even if i'm not defensive about it (and either way i almost certainly won't react much, at least in person), but i'll be distraught anyway, because of what the criticism may entail

tl;dr i'm affected by praise and criticism almost entirely based on how i read the motivations behind it and possible implications of it, not for the expression of opinion itself. praise and criticism are given for a multitude of reasons, and it's very rarely about expressing facts. i don't think i ever take it at face value, no matter who it's coming from

Criticism: Zero effect on me. Not regarding people's opinions very highly may be the reason.
Praise: usually affects me negatively! Because, again, I don't trust people's opinions, so their approval might mean that I'm doing something wrong, or being conformist.

I'm a "mild" schizoid so I probably have a different answer to this question...
When I'm praised I become ashamed and I just don't know what can I say to who was praised me. I just thank the person and smile. But when I'm scolded, I become angry and sad. I nearly cry just for being scolded.
I don't like being scolded or praised. I only get hurt with both of them.

I'm not very sensitive to criticism, but depending on the situation, I can get affected, sometimes even deeply affected, by praise.

I spend a lot of my time helping other people. It provides meaning to my existence. When people praise me for for my helpfulness, or even merely express sincere gratitude, it can affect me deeply. However, when someone praises me for a mostly intellectual task (for example writing a good paper/report) rather than an emotional task (for example helping someone), I'm usually indifferent, or I experience the praise as unwanted attention. I think it's mostly because I don't really need validation for me 'intellectual tasks' to begin with. I do know for myself whether I've done good or bad in those cases.

Criticism can make me feel bad if it's unfair. Unfounded praise makes me wish they'd just stop it. If it's something else, I'm not affected.

I have to add it's important to sometimes get validation/guidance in the form of either praise or criticism. If I think I did well in something at work for instance, positive feedback reinforces my own perceptions. If I think something I did could be improved and someone confirms it by constructive criticism, it works the same way. I don't react emotionally when this happens though.

It's very different how you react, and what others see.
I never know what others see, think or feel about me.
Nor do I care. But when it comes to unprovoked criticism
I just reply with an answer that tells them how things really are,
not too rarely with sarcasm.



(Not diagnosed just yet, so listen to the others for now. This is just an input)

Sometimes yes. Other times no. Depends on the situation

Just found this to be true after being told to f##@ off 4-5 times in variations. Took me 3-5 minutes to recover.