Smart phone widow

Before I met my current beau, I never thought I could become so resentful and indignant towards an inanimate object (by the way, I am not referring to him ) So if I was an unreasonable person, I would kidnap the phone and hold it to ransom such are the feelings of anger I have towards it.

Me and my man have been together 7 months now and he is a self made, successful business man. Little did I actually appreciate how much people sacrifice to be financially successful. His phone rings 24/7 pretty much. There is no such thing as anti social in his world. That does not mean to say he always answers it but I find myself giving the phone the evil eye, the minute I hear that innocuous vibration (short for text, repeated for a call) I feel inclined to grab the phone and get my sharpest heeled high heel and crack the screen!

Seriously though, I never thought this would be an issue but it is. We have had many discussions about it but the message is not penetrating his concrete cranium...it's impermeable! He says he has always lived his life like that, I say it's rude and disrespectful. It is causing issues and he has stopped looking at it quite so much. Forget him having an affair, he has little time to pick his nose let alone mess around. Modern technology is causing us to lose the ability to communicate effectively. BAN mobile devices, let's take this old s skool!

Seems like it might be worth talking about some more, Englishchick, for both of you to be happy long-term. Are there times that he could leave the phone in a different room [meals, movies] that would give you enough of a break that you'd have more tolerance for it being on the rest of the time?

You might also send him the occasional article in support of your position? HBR is a nice solid place to cite.

http://blogs.hbr.org/cs/2012/04/is_your ... g_you.html

http://blogs.hbr.org/hbsfaculty/2012/05 ... ction.html

http://blogs.hbr.org/bregman/2012/10/ta ... -back.html

But to keep it in balance, being almost-always connected IS the price of self-employment very often. So fantasies of living in a house with no mobile reception do have to stay fantasies if he's to contribute to the mortgage.