Too tired of being single

I've never really been great with girls, but I have had my share of girlfriends, but it just seems like each one I have isn't right.
A little back story: I definitely wasn't right for my last ex-girlfriend, and I broke up with her. That was almost a year ago. I've tried to date other girls, but they never seem to like me, or they just blow me off whenever there were plans. I've just gotten to that point where I don't think that I'll ever find anyone that truly cares for me. I have no hope for myself anymore. Sometimes I'm just too depressed by this to do anything other than cry myself to sleep. I know it's stupid looking at it from an outside view, but I just feel that there is no hope for me anymore.

Being with someone gets tiring, too. Stay with someone long enough and you've heard everything they have to say, know what they're going to do, and they cannot make you feel anything new, or maybe anything at all. There are no happy endings. Sooner or later it comes down to, "You're still here?" Beginnings are happy and hopeful. You have freedom, which is a precious commodity. You could have a beginning any day. You never know. You are free to talk to whomever, spend time with whomever, see where things lead. The unknown contains infinite amounts of hope. I have learned where my road leads. I'm here. And like everything single thing under yon sun, it is not what I thought it would be. And I know exactly what tomorrow will be, in every way that matters. Be careful what you wish for......

Still feel so bad about your lot? Just a peek over the fence at the other guy's lawn for you. No $#%^.

Hi OnyxEclipse,
There is hope for you. You are young. You have had girlfriends. It’s hard to find a good match. It can take time. Sometimes the search, aka dating, is fun, other times not so much. What you are saying isn’t stupid. At one point or another, most of us have worried about being alone, though having a significant other isn’t everything. Focus on the positives in your life. Get out and engage in activities that help you grow and learn, be happy and/or are meaning for you. Sometimes the perfect person comes a long when you aren’t even looking. *hugs*

ok-so_now_what wrote:There are no happy endings.

Gosh ok-so_now_what. That seems a bit negative and sad. I know you are trying to show OnyxEclipse the other side of the coin but I wanted to comment on what you said too. Relationships change over time. The initial excitement will fade over the years but hopefully you change and grow together. If you don’t, you move on and try and do so amicably. I think there is happiness but you find if from within. It’s not you who are with or not with. No relationship is perfect but hopefully there are enough good things about it to make it worthwhile and if not, make changes to try to improve things. A relationship is negotiated. A good relationship isn’t about holding each other back, but supporting each other to achieve your goals and dreams. *hugs*

janjones wrote:A good relationship isn’t about holding each other back, but supporting each other to achieve your goals and dreams.*

Ahh, the heart of the matter!

My post: negtive, true for me. What a softheaded idea that negativity is never merited or should never be expressed! I smell the taint of the kneejerk, "It's all good", the oft-heard ventiing of a meaningless and insipid thought whose expression has become a recent addition to our popular vocabulary. Some things are good, some bad. The above is a slogan for the sort of morons who reject any negtivity at all. Life on earth is full of bad things. Look around. They affect us and those around us. Try to pretend otherwise. It doesn't work for long.

You speak of ideals and when addressing me, seem to be prating in boilerplate to someone that you know not at all. I speak from over 20 years of gruelling personal experience. How dare you. For your sake, I hope your life turns out to be as simple as the sentiments you have expressed, and that they prove as easy to put into practice as they were for you to type, and hit "submit". You would be fortunate in that case. My situation might improve or not. Right now, it is not good.

I was merely informing the OP that there are worse things than being alone. He has much to be thankful for and that he can enjoy. The change in his situation that he desires might come with many unforseeable and intolerable consequences. Such a thing is always much easier to begin than to end. Alone-ness is a state that is certainly available to me at this time, but only at a very high cost to me and others. Again, be careful what you wish for...

We appear to have different outlooks on life ok-so_now_what. That’s fine though I’m sorry to hear your situation is not good right now and that life has been grueling for you. I didn’t mean to upset you. I also don’t want to divert OnyxEclipse's thread overly but feel free to PM me if you want to talk more. *hugs*

I apologize for causing any distress. I was merely trying to lament my own worries, and I didn't mean for any of this to get out of hand. It's just that I trust this forum, and I thought this was a safe place to vent to.

*hugs* OnyxEclipse. You’re sweet to offer apologies but I assure you that you have done absolutely nothing wrong and have zero need to apologize. We do try to keep this a safe place to ask questions and/or vent, though if you ever want to talk privately, you can certainly PM me with any questions or concerns.