After sex I lose interest...... what's wrong with me?

I am an 18 yrs old female. I want to have a real relationship, but everytime i get the chance the same thing happens. We hang out for a bit, every thing is great we get to know each other and all that gooey mushy stuff, then as soon as we have sex I lose interest in the guy. and its not like the sex is horrible i mean there was one or two times but most of the time its f-ing great. regardless i lose interest and then i want nothing to do with the guy. sometimes we try and be friends but it just becomes awkward. whats wrong with me?? i try to have feelings but they are none exsitent, why is tht? i am not a promiscous person at all, I havent had sex in forever because of this (6 months and counting).Its hard for me to actually express my feelings. My ex told me i was a robot cold and emotionless. i would just like some opinions on this whole situation. I discussed this with some close friends and they tld me i should see a therapist because i might be a psychopath.
just need some sort of explanation or closure or whatever i dont know i just need to understand.
help please

Phew beats me. It seems like you're protecting yourself somehow- possibly a defense mechanism resulting from a past heartbreak? Maybe you're looking for something other than sexual interactions right now so they are only interfering with what you really want. My experience was perhaps an error during development, but it was like my body was resisting the urge to become emotionally attached. I think it's normal for you to react this way. Definitely think you should listen to your body though- it may have it's guard up for a reason.

I'd hardly think that,with the absence of other severe symptoms (ie extreme callousness in ALL situations, a lack of conscience in a variety of situations, and an indifference to the welfare of others in a variety of situations), that losing interest after sex would qualify you as a psychopath! Firstly, you're only eighteen, and at this age you're experimenting with sex, relationships, and what you want from life generally. At eighteen, it's natural to experiment with various expressions of identity as you discover who you are as a person.

It could be that you're having sex too soon with people who obviously aren't right for you, and on some level you realise this, hence your sudden lack of interest. I agree with the advice of circletakesquare, and that you may need to listen to what your body is telling you.

Taking time to really get to know a person before deciding to have sex with them might help you to discover the type of person that you want to be with, if you feel that you would like to meet someone with a view to settling down. If you don't feel that you're ready to settle down, then you need to be honest with yourself, and ensure that you're having protected sex. If you don't feel ready to settle down, it's very important to be totally honest with the person,to protect their feelings.

I'm a great advocate of therapy, and believe that everyone can benefit from it. Speaking to a therapist can help you to find clarity and to understand what your motives are, and enable you to be true to yourself. It sounds as if you had difficulty expressing emotions and feelings to your ex, and I wonder if this has always been difficult for you? Your earlier childhood experiences and your family life might have a bearing on this. It could be that because of past experiences you're afraid of intimacy. Therapy can help you to explore this. It's extremely unlikely that you're a psychopath as your friends suggest. If you were, you wouldn't be so concerned and worried, and you wouldn't see a need for change.

Me too. I think that's quite normal. After you have sex so many times with a person it just gets
repetitive.

That's why people do kinky things. I like to have sex outdoors, in cars, in bathrooms, at work , in parking lots and lot's of spanking and hair pulling. I've yet to find someone that will really get into that aggressive role....but i'm looking