What game is she playing?

Recap:
We have no contact for couple months now. I was convinced that she found another supply and completely forgot me, that I was the only one having a hard time.
She believes I need to see a therapist because I acted crazy with her on the last times (purposely called/text/e-mailed...repeatedly, declaring ''how I LOVE her..''. She got scarred and SHE cut the ties ( which was my main objective).

NOW:

She knows were a good friend of mine works and she went there to the store he works to buy somehting. She went there last week, and started openly flirting with him. She gave him her phone number and invited herself for a date.
On the date, she talked about ME. She told him things that I told her that were never meant for him to know. She also spoke of me like if I was the weirdest idiot of the city...

My friend told me that she was ''offering herself''to him. She invited herself to go to his apartment and spend the night... but he declined.

Now, I don't get it. What is she playing? What is she trying to do.. Getting contact whith my friends... for what reason? Making me jealous? Trying the make me look like an idiot?

I am getting angry myself now,
I want to cut the ties...but she keeps coming back, indirectly but not in an innocent way.

I am sick of her.

This is typical and happened to me with my ex HPD and a new HPD "friend" as well.

You can't talk to your friend or to your ex about it. Won't get you anywhere.

If she knows that you're upset about it, she will play the game for a longer time. So be happy & forget it

Easy said, but it's the easiest if not only way.

Guys I'm moving this to Relationships.

ddca wrote : I acted crazy with her

Ddca, I understand your angry and hope you learn from it. If you don't want people to talk about you as a nut, remember in the future to try not to act like one. Most people talk. Does this really surprise you?

As far as her seeing your friend, that shouldn't surprise you either. You already realize she might have issues of attention.

The only thing you can do, is learn from all this and remain no contact.

If this effected you too much and you find it really difficult to get over, than seek help. It is not worth it, to continue going through your pain too long. No shame in talking to someone. Time will heal, but a little professional help along the way, helps too.

My best to you...OK

just be happy. don't let to see that you are upset because of that. play your own game:)

Just act like you don't care. Any conversation with her about it is a no win for you.

She is for certain doing this to affect you.

The badmouthing to friends is in the standard playbook for women like that. She is trying to gain sympathy and attention all the while attempting to isolate you.

Your best course is to maintain no-contact with her and reduce or temporarily eliminate contact with your friend who she is trying to date.

It continues...

She goes swimming and goes to movies with the girlfriend of another friend of mine... (they almost never talked to each other before)...

She got close of 2 persons of my immediate social ''clan''...

I know it seems like no big deal...but I can't stop thinking about it anymore...
She's back in my head....

ddca wrote:It continues...


I know it seems like no big deal...but I can't stop thinking about it anymore...
She's back in my head....

I feel your pain. I know its hard but you cant let it get to you. It's all about her game. Just dont play it. It will frustrate her more than anything. Just ignore her. You know who you are and so do your family and real friends dont let the $#%^ talking make you upset.

ddca wrote:It continues...

She goes swimming and goes to movies with the girlfriend of another friend of mine... (they almost never talked to each other before)...

She got close of 2 persons of my immediate social ''clan''...

I know it seems like no big deal...but I can't stop thinking about it anymore...
She's back in my head....

Here's the real news. She can't get to you unless you let her. Newsflash: You're letting her. She obviously knows you still care about her and this is her way of grinding it in. She can't do that unless you let her. You're letting her. By getting upset, you give her all the power and you're left with none. She wins, you lose. Until you get to the point where she can realize you don't care (and obviously you still do), you can expect more of the same. This is what they do and you're doing your dead level best to help her keep you in emotional turmoil. She's winning and you suffer the consequences.