An affair....

Can you ever move on from it???

I thought i could... But the more time that passes I'm not sure.... It didnt happen that long ago.... And its still raw....

Am i expecting too much too soon???

Or am i wasting my time???

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Hun, you haven't gone into a great deal of detail here, which makes it difficult to comment as each case is different.

A lot would depend on how sorry your partner is, the reasons that made your partner feel justified in having an affair, how you felt, whether or not your partner took your feelings on board, any insecurity you now feel, whether or not your partner is remorseful and truly appreciates how you are feeling etc etc.

It's natural that you will be feeling many emotions at this time, and that you need answers. Could you tell us a bit more about your situation?

Springergirl wrote:Can you ever move on from it???

I thought i could... But the more time that passes I'm not sure.... It didnt happen that long ago.... And its still raw....

Am i expecting too much too soon???

Or am i wasting my time???

: (

You're wasting your time.

You'll never forget it. If you do decide to move past it then you'll end up coming back to it time and time again. Trust, such as it is, is gone. You now have to accept that you are in a relationship with a different person, one that has breached your agreement.
Interestingly, they will be more worried than you as time goes on, as they will worry that you might do the same and they'll not have a leg to stand on.
Walk away and start again.

Springergirl wrote:Can you ever move on from it???

That depends on the person (you). The fact you're posting here though, I would say no... chances are you won't be able to move past from it.

Springergirl wrote:Am i expecting too much too soon???

How long has it been?

Springergirl wrote:Or am i wasting my time???

I am someone who has and will always be a cheater (I'm female). People who cheat don't usually stop, that's not the case for everyone. You really haven't given enough details for anyone to answer these questions to their best ability.

Depending on the situation there's over a 50% chance you are wasting your time. Not only the chances that your partner will cheat again, but you will drive yourself insane and be miserable always wondering if he/she is cheating again.

Can you live with that? If so, you're not wasting your time.

What kind of affair was it? Physical or emotion? Both? That makes a difference. If it was physical, it's pretty meaningless... normal human behavior (in my opinion). If there were emotional aspects involved, run for the hills and don't look back... you are guaranteed wasting your time.

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Springergirl,

Do you want to move on? Or are you expecting him to/ hoping he will come back to you ?

Who ended the relationship and why?

Chances are if he cheated upon someone else with you he has done it before and will do it again even if he returns commits to you. Do you really want that?

By the way there is a venting page in the members corner, if you feel the need. People are not supposed to reply. Doesn't meant they wont reply. Just they should not.

Springergirl wrote:Can you ever move on from it???

I thought i could... But the more time that passes I'm not sure.... It didnt happen that long ago.... And its still raw....

Am i expecting too much too soon???

Or am i wasting my time???

: (

Trying to get over it's never wasted time. What constitutes too much too soon? That will be different for different people... For different reasons. How long's it been? What happened? what was the relationship like?