crossdressing for stress relief

Sincefour, I didn't mean to make light of it, but I admit to not knowing much about the motivations or details of the ....do I call it a "disorder"? Thanks for bringing up that it can have a darker side.

I'm glad you have managed to stop something that was harmful to you!

Devanna,
It is not a disorder I do not think you said that. But it is a part of me and is not harmful. All my crossdressing friends say the same thing. We could not stop dressing no matter what. Most just deny doing it and are in the closet. We all find a way to dress.

sincefour,
How was it harmful? How did you stop?

Devanna/DDonna/ALL

Oops, I forgot what tread I was in. I was refering to the "fetish wear" comment. Usually fetish wear has S/M, B/D, and other things associated with it, that's what I was talking about.

Womens clothes I enjoy very much, just on women.

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Heh...my ex boyfriend made some mentions of crossdressing. i dont know if he actually WAS a crossdresser, he was very vague about it and tried to act like it was just stuff hed do when he was bored...that's pretty much the extent of my experience with crossdressing men.

i dont have any problem with the thought of it, never have. i think it'd be rather fun to have a boyfriend who crossdressed...i wouldnt think it was strange and id like to perhaps help him out ^_^

i dont think theres anything wrong or bad about your husband...but, one thing, about the kids...are those of you with kids going to ever tell your kids? i mean, what happens if the kids one day see their dad in a dress...? it could be pretty awkward and unsettling for them if they arent prepared

We told our kids when we thought they would understand. One was in her teens. They had seen him do it for Halloween parties before then. It was not easy but we thought it was right.

I suspect your exboyfriend did crossdress. I suspected my husband long before I caught him.

It is fun for us now especially shopping. Smooth legs in bed are nice too. It can be very intimate. We keep it confined to the bedroom unless we know we will have the whole house for a while.

If you or your current boyfriend are considering it I would encourage it. It can bring you closer together. It helps men understand us a little better too. Does for my husband anyway.

Freaks,yeesh.

It is nice to see most of the people are supportive. My husband has been crossdressing since he was a youth. I found out from his sister after we were married. We talked about it and brought it out in the open. My therapist thought it was best. Like some of you we have set up rules for his dressing and our kids know. Our kids are out of the house now. We have some friends where the husband crossdress too so we can talk about it and get support when we need to. His personality is different when he is crossdressed. Sometimes I have him get dressed to change his mood.

I noticed some want to know what he wears. He is a size 16 so his clothes selection is limited but we manage to find nice things. Heels are harder to find for him. I would say he dresses like any woman of size. He looks much better now that we have purchased breastforms for him. He does like bras and pantyhose which I do not understand but that seems common in men here. He has a few bathingsuits one piece and bikinis. We have some fetish wear like maid uniform, nurse, cheerleader. He shaves his legs too which I do like.

We have been out to clubs a few times as a reverse couple. We have thrown a couple parties where the women and men come dressed as the opposiste sex. Those are fun. We have been walking on trails with him crossdressed. We also drive around sometimes.

My sister pointed out to me that he wears a bra more than I ever did. Specially now that I have been brafree for over 2 years. This is sort of ironic.

I would be happy to talk to anyone with an open mind about his crossdressing and answer any questions. It is nice to talk about this.

I am glad someone has brought up this subject. I have been crossdressing since I was 7. It was very difficult being in the closet and very stressful. My wife caught me dressing and after the shock wore off it became easier for both of us. My wife suspected I crossdressed before she caught me. Being out of the closet is great. Crossdressing is a part of me and when I get to dress fully I feel much better and it is calming for me. I do not know how to explain it well.

I used to wear what clothes of my wife's that I could fit into. Now I have my own wardrobe. It is very varied with lots of different style clothing. When we are out or around our friends I dress conservatively but in the current styles. I do have some more evening style clothes that I wear when my wife says it is ok. I wear lingerie to bed but usually just a simple slip. I do have some sexy babydolls and teddies that I wear when my wife is in the mood for them. She knows what to get me for Valentines Day and my birthday now. Heels are hard to find but I have bought many online most fit well.

She is supportive of my dressing and helps some. She does like to shop with me. Most people that know me well know I crossdress.

I would like to know from some of the wives that responded how often do their husbands crossdress? How do you help them if you do help at all? Does your husband try clothes on in the stores? (I have done this a few times.)

Crossdressing has nothing to do with being Gay! And its no more weird than a woman wearing a suit (male; taylored to fit a womans body).

All crossdressers should be shot.