On Intimacy

Hi
Thanks again to all for an excellent forum.
My question is how do you build intimacy after a relationship has had a break and has got back together ?
I am talking in the first days where things are a little uneasy and people are wary. After the decision has be made to try again, how can you help cement the process by developing intimacy. I am not talking necessarily about sex but rather those things that make people feel loved and engender a sense of trust.
I am interested in all your thoughts.
Many thanks
Drew

Hey Drew,

You have to take it one step at a time,don't rush into things.You have to wait until both of you are comfortable and ready to move on. I find talking to your partner can help too. If you have worries you should both be able to discuss it. If you were both willing to give it another go then I think talking it through shouldn't be a problem.

I think it also depends on why/how things ended in the first place.

Take it slow, and don't ignore the problems you had in the past. Talk openly. The intimacy will come in time if you both really want it and are working to give to your partner.

I think it just takes time. I know, this is the most frustrating response because you just want it to hurry up and happen. But I really think that you can't do anything to force intimacy. Let her know you love her, be there for her, basically just be a good partner. The intimacy will follow.