Half brother and sister intimate relationship *TRIGGER

Hi, I have just found this discussion and I am in a very similar position.
I met my half brother 2 years ago. He had been adopted so i had never met him and only knew of his existence in my early 20's. I am in my late 40's now and he is a few years older. Our mother passed away 3 years ago and it was the green light for me to find him, my mother not wanting to in the past. I did find him and met up with him shortly afterwards. There was an instant attraction for us both on many different levels. We are both very different yet very similar.
I have never felt more at ease or more comfortable in anothers company. We love each other deeply.
Two years on....we see each other about every 6 weeks, we live far apart but transport links are good. We are both long divorced, both have children, me late teenagers, him, 2 under 10s.
A few of my very good friends know of my relationship, everyone else can't understand why i'm 'single'. It is a highly frustrating situation and at times, I get very down about it as i see no light at the end of tunnel. Everything is against us and as yet, we don't have any answers...........i await them with hope, love, happiness and peace, for as we see it, we are doing no harm to anyone.
I wish you luck with your relationship and hope that you can find a way to be together

This is a very common thing.

My best friend from highschool/college and her half sister (which I had a crush on when we met her) totally fell in love with eachother when they met a while ago, of course everybody said it was an abomination but I kinda understood what was going on, he never had a sister and she never had a brother, how other way do you know to deal with a person of the other sex that you love??

Anyways, she accidentally got pregnant by him, and even tho they hid the real identity of the father for a long time they eventually got together, they said "###$ off" to society and whatever they think. Now they live together as a family, the girl is almost 9yrs old, and yeah they have their problems like any other couple, but they are doing things right for at least trying things.

The only hard part is going to be explaining their daughter they are actually related, but I think they are just going to lie a bit... not sure.

But anyways, I think if you are REALLY in love, go for it. I only read your initial post so I'm sorry if I miss details. But I am with you, LOVE is thicker than blood!!!

I am also in a half brother/half sister relationship. As others have stated, it was an instant attraction. I was adopted and just recently found my birth family. My half brother is 52 and I am 47. I am wondering how often this type of relationship actually lasts. It feels so right and we are so comfortable together, but some people just don't understand and with most we have to keep it a secret...

OMG, I am in the same situation! I found my half brother 1.5 years ago, never having met him before, and only knowing that he existed and nothing else.... when I found him on facebook we were both excited to get to know each other via email and skype. We live in different countries so this was our only means initially. What we did not expect was that we both immediately fell in love! We however, don't have guilt because in our eyes we were total strangers, we did not get raised together, and therefore imprinting did not and would never occur. Imprinting occurs when siblings grow up together and it occurs at a young age, it is a phenom that occurs automatically and deters siblings (regardless of genetic connection) children from feeling feelings of intimacy (emotional or physical) towards each other. So, we too, after 6 months of an emotional relationship, ended up meeting in person and found an amazing physical (sexual) connection as well.

We're just 2 people who met and fell in love. What my challenge is, is that we live in different countries and immigrating to the US is virtually impossible, as a sibling there is a 12 year waiting list to immigrate to the US and I can't get him here with marriage. We have had this long distance relationship for 1.5 years and we both cannot imagine life without one another. We also feel we are soul mates, we share a emotional and physical connection neither of us has ever experienced.

You are not insane, you are not psychology messed up, you are two strangers who met and fell in love. People cannot understand this because society has made it so taboo, without considering exceptions.

I'm not sure what our future holds for our living situation but I know that no man could ever replace the connection and love I have for this man, and he feels the same towards me. We live in pain everyday from living so far apart. It's pure torture... but completely worth it. I cannot live without him and the love he has given me is more than I've ever even imagined.....

Best of luck to you both, I hope you can find a way to accept your love and a way to be together.

That was beautiful! Thank you for sharing your story! We still live in separate states, but he will retire next year and will be moving here. Our bond is exactly as you described! I truly wish the best for you and hope that you guys can find a way to be together soon! Please keep me posted... Hugs!!!

masquerade wrote:Here is a link for a Wiki article on genetic attraction.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genetic_sexual_attraction

This may explain a bit more about the processes that cause this to happen.

Yes, it is illegal and there can be severe punishments for incest. The possibility of pregnancy is also something that needs to be considered here.

Talking over your feelings with a therapist can help and may help with your feelings of isolation.

jakelyn this is the post you need to be reading about.

Genetic sexual attraction is a very well known phenomenon; adopted children who are re-united with siblings and parents often feel an overwhelming sexual attraction towards them. This is because evolution favors partners with characteristic similar to our own, but incest is prevented by a switch in our brains that stops us being attracted to people we're brought up around. Obviously if you're not brought up around your family, when you're re-united with them your brain sees them as highly desirable sexual partners because they have an unnaturally large number of traits in common with you due to your genetic proximity.

There's nothing inherently wrong with what you're doing, the only real problem is that if you chose to have kids they'd have a very good chance of suffering some quite horrendous diseases due to the limited genetic diversity they'd inherit. The fact evolution has actively favored anti-incest mechanisms in almost all sexual animals should tip you off that it's an extremely poor idea to create offspring with someone you're closely related to. It would be selfish and wrong of you, so for the love of your god don't do it.

I am a mother of a son and daughter that are living together and having a sexual relationship. They are half-brother and sister. He was given up for adoption and we were all just reunited with him recently. They are 6 years apart. Not only have I suffered for so many years not having my son, wondering where he is, who is taking care of him, is he OK? Thinking about all of his birthdays, Christmas mornings, all of life. It was so difficult for me not having him. I was young and my parents forced me to give him up.

The day I knew I would meet him I literally fell to my knees from happiness. I know not many people get to feel that extreme happiness in their lifetime. It was unbelievable. I reunited with him and shortly after my entire family reunited with him as well. I know now that my son and daughter were having a sexual relationship from the day that they met. They live together now. I can not even begin to tell you how much my heart breaks every single day. I have lost him all over again and I have also lost a daughter. I have heard people say that this happens a lot. Ok, I understand the attraction BUT to act on it? You are hurting so many people. What am I suppose to tell my family? How do I tell the other siblings? Out of all of the millions of people in the world you both can find someone else to be in love with. I think it is so selfish for anyone to do this.

Lovelife, I think you are only hurt bc you've chosen not to accept it. I can't see how they've actually done anything to you at all or in what way this is selfish. Have you lost them bc you have rejected them, or have they somehow rejected you? I think you should find it in your heart to get past this. And remember, a lot of parents are unhappy about their children's chosen parteners.

I am an only child not sexually or romantically involved w anyone I'm biologically related to, but I just can't see why this is so horrifying. They are consenting adults. They are not hurting anyone. I do feel a little woogie about the idea of a brother and sister who grew up together living as a couple, but if it turned out that friends or family were in that sort of relationship, I think I'd have to just hope that they were doing well together and get on w my life.

Well I have just about gave up posting a reply to this thread. I have tried to post a reply 2-3 times and I have either somehow going back a page and loosing
everything I wrote. Or when I finish and submit the post it tells me to log in again and I do and everything gets lost. So I have decided to just write what I think
in notepad so then there is no way I am going to lose what I say.
So what do I think about a half brother being with their sister intimately. Well just bare with me on this as it is going to be a odd way to put the way I
I think about this. So it is all due to laws that the world is the way it is. Also it is due to what society thinks. But it is mostly because of laws. Society
end up pressuring goverment officals into making laws. Lots of these laws that are made are just stupid and don't help physical violence and murders. The goverment
is just bashing people that due things that are simple like not paying taxes and what not. And police and others are beating people for no reason and murdering people
unjustly. What is the world coming too seriously? Why can't things be simple like as long as no one is physically harmed or murdered and physically agree with one
another and everything be fine? Also I would say that no one should steal from one another either. I guess those 2 things really there may be other things but I
can't think of them. Lying is one thing I would say is borderline as really if you want to lie then fine. Just seriously there is no point in it as you would just
build up guilt and then spill it all. Then it is much worse in the end. An example would be that if you borrowed something without a persons permission and never
returned it. The person would either eventually find out or you build up the guilt as I said and then either way they will take a long time before they trust you
again. Or they may never trust you again. But if you borrowed it without their permisison and told them that same day and gave it back to them and explained yourself
then they may get mad but at least you have a better chance of them trusting you again as it isn't as bad as it could be. Anyways if the world was like this then
things like half brothers and sisters being together wouldn't matter as you wouldn't be physically harming someone or murdering anyone. Yes you may emotionally hurt
someone but the thing is sometimes it is impossible to avoid that. As you can't make everyone happy.
But that is about it. To close this off I will describe what I
see and hope for the future of the world. Society have been slowly accepting things and making it okay to do. The main thing today is same sex marriagaes. Before you
know it since it is slowly being made legal state by state it will be made legal world wide. But it doesn't nessarily mean that it will. But I think that since lots
of things have been wrong at one point and have eventually been made ok then the future may make this ok as well. So I hope that lots if not all pointless laws are
revoked and new laws that actually are something everyone can agree on. When this happens the world should become a better place hopefully. Anyways that is all
let me know what you think about this and if it all makes since and applies to this topic.

I am in the same boat just started about 1 years ago... I would like some advise from you